I hate my dreams

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Registered: 07-08-2005
I hate my dreams
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:29pm
My grandma, whom I was close to, died when I was 14. Every now and then I still have dreams about her. Like last night, it was like it was just after she died and I was in a shop that she must've owned, and there in front of me was a shirt with her name on it, I don't remember much of the rest of the dream, but I do remember crying through the whole dream. I miss her terribly, and after her death is when my anxiety kicked in, but don't you think that after 7yrs I should be over those dreams? Also, I think I'm a freak, but, does anyone else notice that after they wake up sometimes, especially after only being asleep for less than, say, 4 hours that their heart is beating harder or faster? Maybe I'm a dork, lol.
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Registered: 05-27-2003
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:26pm

sorry to hear about the bad dreams:(

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:46pm

You are NOT a dork! We don't allow any here;)


Seriously, dreams are our way of reducing daytime stress & working through our daytime problems. In my experience, we never get over the death of someone close. We only learn how to get through each day without them & not missing them as much. It's like a wound that each days heals a little more, but in the end, we still bear the scar. You may be stressed about something that you aren't even aware of. I am not into dream interpretation, but my family always says, *dream of the dead & you will hear from the living.* Did you get a phone call or a letter from someone today? It always happens for me. Call me superstitious.


I have had the hard heartbeat upon awakening. It really thumps & scares me, so I begin to practice my belly breathing right away. Wishing you happier dreams. (((hugs))) jan


 

 


 



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2005
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 9:10pm
wow thats nuts, because I did get a phone call from my grandparents and that usually never happens. Interesting!
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Registered: 09-16-2005
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 9:10pm

I sometimes dream of my loved ones that have passed away. I always consider it a priviledge that they have not forgotten me as I have not forgotten them. I've always just saw it as being blessed. Just my view on dreams about those we love and have lost.

Keitha

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 6:01am
I hate my dreams too. Usually, I have nightmares, or unwanted dreams. Sometimes I dream about this cute boy from college, then I feel guilty all day long, because I love my boyfriend and everything, but these dreams just plague me periodically. Usually though I just have ridiculous nightmares and I think it's just stress, but they are quite bothersome, and I wake up about every two hours.
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Registered: 07-28-2004
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 7:43pm

Some losses cut so deep that some remnant remains, even when it's buried in the back of your mind. I still dream occasionally about ancient family losses and emotional baggage from 20 plus years ago! Afterwards, I try to contemplate for a few moments about all my positive associations with the person or event to "counteract" the bad feelings. Also I usually can think of some current event or anxiety that is triggering the old associations by producing the same kind of negative feelings or deep rooted anxieties as the in the past event.

Hugs,
Dee

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 8:33pm
I often dream of loved ones, alot of them deceased, but they are *happy* dreams, with good memories.

Sheri Ann