Meltdown time

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Meltdown time
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Sat, 10-28-2006 - 10:58pm

Ok, today was just a bad day overall. And next Thursday I go back to work. DJ is doing well, sleeping through the night, and he will be 10 weeks on Monday. The girls were into everything today. And just downright horrible at times. DH helped with his occassional yells telling them to stop, but just basicly sat there and watched his football all day. Even when I went to bathe the girls he declined to hold the baby. He said to lay him on the couch. I would say on average he holds our son 5 minutes a day. :( Anyway, DJ screamed most of the time and I do believe he had gas, which I gave him before the bath. But when I was done, DH had him laying next to him on the couch on his back. DJ hates to lay on his back, and especially if he is already upset!

So the girls were bad, and DH doesn't help. I just felt so down today. Just sad. I am so disgusted with DH. I am not really mad at him. It just makes me sad that he doesn't want to be more active with our kids. And when I am having a hard time with them I feel like I am all alone. I mean he does discipline them, but what about spending time with them? I just want to get away from him.... from everything I guess. Maybe when I go back to work, my life will go back to the "normal" chaos. I don't know, just venting.

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In reply to: bjuana_
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 11:39pm

Did dh hold the the girls when they were newborns? The reason I ask, Yavonne is that I know of many men, including my dad who feel very helpless with an infant. My dad never held us until we were big enough to walk. He always said he was afraid he'd hurt us because he was so much bigger.


Also, does dh know what posistion DJ likes? If he doesn't spend much time with the baby, probably not. Does he even know how to identify gas? I always consider men kind of clueless about those things;) Your dh apparently needs a crash course in infant parenting. He may be slacking because you didn't expect enough from him with the girls.


I would be in a meltdown, too. I hope you get some *me* time in before starting back to work. I think it might be a pleasant distraction for you. Even though you'll be tired out when you get home, I was always so happy to see my kids again. Good luck! Vent anytime! (((hugs))) jan


 

 


 



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In reply to: bjuana_
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 12:21am
Thanks for your response Jan. DH was not very hands on with my girls, but he held our son no problem the day after I had him. I kept commenting on how easily he was holding him. And DH is aware of the fact that DJ prefers to be on his stomach. As far as the gas goes, I told him that DJ probably had gas and I had given him gas drops. I think he really felt hopeless in the situation.
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In reply to: bjuana_
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 9:04am
i'm sorry you are having such a hard time:( just wanted to let you know that i am here to support you.
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In reply to: bjuana_
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 11:22am
Thanks Heather. Oh, wow, you only have 63 days to go! How are you feeling?
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Registered: 05-27-2003
In reply to: bjuana_
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 6:40pm

hey yavonne,


i'm doing okay...i hate being preggo...coupled w/my anxiety and pregnancy complications...not a good combo...


i've been having a LOT of contractions (about 10-12 an hour) but don't want to go to labor&delievery because they will 1)pump me up w/fluids, 2) probably suggest giving me some terb/bretherine to stop/slow them and i won't take these meds because of my anxiety (the both tend to trigger panic attacks/panic like symptoms in NON anxious people, rapid heart beat, nausia, feelings of apprehension etc)...so i'm just sitting here on my bedrest drinking a TON of fluids...


i just hope i make it to 37 weeks! (ds was born at 34), but w/the contractions and stuff i'm not feeling so confident i'll make it to this point...


thanks for asking:) sorry, i wish i had a "happier" update:) hopefully i'll have a happy update in 42 days (i'll be full term in 42 days:)


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In reply to: bjuana_
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 6:42pm
(((Yvonne)))

Sheri Ann

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In reply to: bjuana_
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 7:49pm
Yes, I am hoping you make it 42 more days too! ;)
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In reply to: bjuana_
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 7:51pm
Thanks Sheriann!
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