Not Doing Any Better Today..At All..

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Registered: 07-08-2005
Not Doing Any Better Today..At All..
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Wed, 11-01-2006 - 2:19pm
I'm not doing much better today. I just found out that we don't have the money to last us through the 15th. So I'm not testing for pregnancy until then just because we can't afford it. I just want to cry. I don't like to feel like this, and if I can't afford a friggin pregnancy test how in the hell are we going to afford a baby? I don't understand why all these crappy circumstances have to be played to me all at the sametime. I hate California it's sucking all the money away from us. I hate our military budget we can't afford crap. I hate having to wonder how in the world am I going to make sure my family survives?! We don't need a baby right now, I could just kick myself in the butt over and over for not being more careful. So here I'm sitting crying and freaking out because I don't know what to do or where to turn. The only thing I can ask is to ask God, "WHY?!" My husband keeps telling me that it will be OK. I can't see that it will be OK. I'd have to sign up for WIC...we're not eligible for WIC!! I don't know what to do.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 2:47pm

Hi there. Try not to get too far ahead of yourself. You're picturing having to apply for WIC and you're not even sure you're pregnant :) You're just fueling the fire which is very easy to do when we're overwhelmed.

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 3:14pm

Nothing increase my anxiety like stretching fiances. I too tend to "borrow trouble" when I'm stressing out over money, by worrying about the what ifs.

I agree with Dharma, I know it's hard, but try not to worry, especially when you don't know yet. I'm glad you DH is being supportive.

Hugs,
Dee

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Registered: 01-17-2001
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 3:47pm

I am sorry to hear that you are not doing any better.


Finances are a tough issue and a major stressor for a lot of families.


The only advice I can really give you is to try to stay in the moment. Deal with what you know to be a fact and work out things as they come along.


Remember that God never gives you more then you can handle.. easier said then done I know...


Hang in there,


Heather


"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7



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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 5:09pm

(((Ashley))) I am sorry that you're so distressed.

 

 


 



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Registered: 05-27-2003
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 5:33pm

hi ashely,


i'm sorry to hear that you are going through all of this:( i can relate to the stress level though:( we have a lot of $$$$ problems as well, we live w/my parents:(


check your email okay, i emailed you something.


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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 5:37pm

I hope you are feeling better by now!

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 07-08-2005
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 5:45pm
i had my first at 17 too sheri ann! then again at 20, lol. to me it just seems this kind of thing hits me when life's balance is extremely delicate. i'm not sure about the family planning clinic. I haven't heard of one, we're Coast Guard so we don't have all the anemities that the other branches do. but i'm sure i can find something at Ft. Hood once we get to Texas. I'm not doing too great still, I'm extremely irritable and I'm flying off the handle quickly. I've gotten up and have started to deep clean the house. And now that I'm up and moving around I'm spotting again, very light but still there. In response to heather i just got your email i'll reply asap. thanks guys i really needed the support. I don't flip out like this very often; so i guess when i do everything that i kept under wraps magnifies and makes it worse for me. I have a problem with catastrophic thinking.