Newbie. Need Help for 4yo son please
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| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 2:34pm |
Hi there...
My DH and I are a bit worried about our son and I am seeking some suggestions.
My 4yo son has some type of issue that we cannot figure out and I do not even know where to begin finding help. We moved into our house in June of this year. We had to remove a full length mirror behind one of the bedroom doors because Brayden was scared of the sandman and said the mirror going away would make it better. (No one had ever mentioned 'sandman' to him he came up with it by himself). We removed the mirror and he slept through the night in his room again.
Then today I was bathing him and he started talking about a ghost scaring him in the blue wall of the tub and the mirror. We covered the mirror and he stopped crying and started playing with his toys. My husband and I are concerned with the pattern we are seeing yet have no clue what is going on. (He usually stands in the bath btw cause he is scared..he hates bathtime and says the water scares him).
In looking up info autism has come up saying sometimes looking in the mirror can be scary because they see their reflection distorted. I am not a big believer in ghosts but I also have read that water and mirrors are good mediums. Brayden is slow to warm up to new situations and often does not like to participate in class activities until after they are over. He is recieving school services to help his speech and social interactions. He is about 6mo behind according to testing we have had done on him. He also does not understand 'who what when where why' questions...which seems a bit odd to me also.
Figured it would not hurt to ask if you have experienced any of these issues as well or if you have any idea where I could get some guidance on what may be bothering him.
I will also say my 9yo son and I both have anxiety, ADD and sensory integration disorder. I have had anxiety since I was young and was even hospitalized for it when I was 18yo. When I was a child no one believed me when I was scared of something, I refuse to not listen to my kids fears. I want to help them and make their anxieties better.
Thanks for reading this.
~Hollyn
hollynmatt1001@yahoo.com

Hi! I am sorry to hear about your son's behavior. It must be very difficult for you to watch. As any parent, you want the very best for your child. To do that, you need to get expert advice from a medical professional. We are not experts here & we deal with adult anxiety issues only.
Here are some other iVillage boards that may be able to point you in the direction necessary to get your ds the proper help he needs. Good luck & GBU! jan
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Hi Hollyn and welcome!
Sheri Ann
go through many fears a more sensitive child will obviously have more
fears than one who is not so sensitive or anxious! If your child is
afraid of mirrors it may be a symptom of autism but does not neceassarily
mean he is autistic--- a pediatric doctor whould be able to help you out.
I agree about television and even talking with other children can bring up
something they may scare your chlld... try to take the fear out of it
tell a story about the sandman and make it happy!! Maybe get some sand and
make one and let him decide shat to do with him---- just some ideas for you!!
My grand daughter seems to have inherited my spirted personality!!!
I find my daughter who has a calm attitude is very good for Saylor---
she does not ignore her but explains things so calmly that she feel safe!!
Please let us know how you and your son are doing--- Judy
Thank you very much for taking the time to reply. I will look into all of the suggestions made.
It hurt me a lot when my parents did not take my fears and anxiety seriously, as a result I take everything my kids are afraid of seriously and try my best to help them work it out to make it better.
Have a great week!
~Hollyn