Not sure what to do about DH..
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Not sure what to do about DH..
| Tue, 11-21-2006 - 9:17pm |
I'm really depressed about this, and anxious as well. I'm not sure how to handle this situation, so I was hoping someone could help me. DH made it into New Mexico this evening and is staying the night with his parents. He doesn't plan on being here until Sunday. However, I really want him to be here with us for Thanksgiving. We had briefly talked about it when we were deciding on flying the girls and me out here. Intially I said, No, no way I want us together. Then he kept saying that it'd be easier on everyone, so I caved and said OK. He called me this evening and I told him how I was feeling about wanting him to come home. And he got all agitated with me. He says that he wants to spend a few days with his parents, which I can understand, honestly I do. But during the holidays its extremely important to me to be with your spouse and children. So I REALLY REALLY want him here, but then again I feel really bad for wanting that. And I'm scared that if he decides to head this way tomorrow that his parents will resent me thinking that I'm selfish. This is so depressing and anxiety inducing to me. What should I do?

Hugs Ashley,
Holidays can be so stressful! I know it seems so unfair that your DH is not coming, but would it really be better if he was there and stressing out too?
Can you have a talk with your parents and get their help with the kids? Maybe find a relative or sitter one day and you & your Mom have a "girl's day out" or something? It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, just some space and pampering or time to unwind and talk.
I get wound up too, so I know it's not easy to let go of the anxiety, but hey you are with family and can still have a great Thanksgiving. Are there family traditions you can concentrate on and enjoy as a distraction? Special dishes or activities with the kids?
Sending thoughts and prayers your way!
Dee
Thanks for joining in the board discussion & adding your insights to Ashley's dilemma. We appreciate it. Hope to see you often;) Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan