Have posted before. BUT................

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Have posted before. BUT................
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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 3:01pm
Hi..........
I was diagnosed with Anxiety Many years ago and put on Klonopin. I has worked wonderfully.
But last year I started having systoms again and my phsyciatriast told me I had become use to it. So I was slowly taken off of it. Now all I am on is Prozac, 40 mg.
I really am not doing good without it. I constantly worry about everything. Making mistakes, etc..... That I am not good enough for my husband of 33 yrs. (Yaaaaaaaaa. you would think by now I would know, but I don't) I even feel that he does not like me sexually. I am avoiding it, which is NOT GOOD. He has been very patient and kind. (that I know of). He deserves so much more.
I am constantly on edge and feel very nervous, especially when I have to do things. Which is very often. I can't do this good enough, I can't do that good enough. I have been in therapy for years. I just can't seem to get past or over this wall. I know alot of things in my head, but I just don't feel it. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 4:45pm

WB! Nice to have you here, but wish it was under better circumstances. I am sorry that you have had a setback with the anxiety. Low self-esteem & negative thinking are issues that many of us face. In our *coping tips & tricks* folder below, you can learn ways to combat them. I have intrusive thoughts that can be scary & make little sense, but I allow myself 20 minutes to mull them over, then make myself get busy. There's alot to be said for devoting our energy more positively into hobbies, volunteer work or even exercise. It gives us a chance to regroup & focus on another subject. I admit it isn't always easy. The negativity can sneak back in. There will be times that you get worn out with all the refocusing. But, in the end, when you regain your balance, it will seem so worthwhile.


How long have you been on the prozac? It's a good med for anxiety but takes 4 to 6 weeks to reach it's optimal effect. Have you been under added stress lately? Is your health ok? Any major life changes or a death or loss of some sort? These things have been known to put us off our game.


Also, since your 33 year marriage hasn't convinced you that your dh is still in love & attracted to you, it won't be much help for me to tell you that. I have read these fears discussed on the Self Esteem Support board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhselfesteem I have gotten alot of help from reading posts from others who don't think they're good enough. Fear of failing & not taking chances limits us. It can make us unhappy & very lonely.


I wish you all the best. I hope others will have some good ideas for you. For now, I want you to know that I care & want you to feel better. You are NOT alone. Maybe that will reassure you a little. Stop in to chat whenever you can. Post often. You are always welcome here. (((hugs))) jan

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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 6:03pm

Why can't I just go back on the Klonopin or another med??????????

I am sooooooooo worn out......................

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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 9:06pm
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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 10:03pm
Of course another med is an option. You will need to discuss this directly with your dr. I would certainly tell him exactly how you're feeling. If you need to, copy your post & hand it directly to him. Also, make sure your therapist knows how you're struggling. You can be taught relaxation exercises & new ways to cope. Besides, your therapist should be your ally in assisting you in getting the best possible care from your dr. HTH (((hugs))) jan

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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 10:19pm
That is what I am hoping for................
I have to call and make an appt with him tomorrow. For some reason he doesn't seem to want me on a med. But oh........it made such a difference.
I felt sure of myself and I could handle life alot better. (Like you're suppose to.)
I enjoyed my husband and daughter. Now I only seem to worry if I'm a big problem to them.
I want to do something beofre he gets tired of all of this. How can he not be????
I AM!!!!!!!!!!
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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 10:34pm

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Sun, 11-26-2006 - 11:07pm

Definitely call your doctor & tell him/her what is going on!

Sheri Ann

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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 12:52pm
in reading your post you say how you don't think you deserve your husband, i feel the same way but i am a newly wed. what is it taht makes you think you don't deserve him? intrusive thoughts? mine is bc of the mistakes i made before him, putting him through my difficulty in deciding to marry him, some cold feet! even though i know i wanted to marry him, that darn FEAR. anyway, i have been dealing wiht anxiety and getting help with it for two years and just now diagnosed with ocd. what is working for me is the clonazapem .5mg(sp?) a strong type of xanax i take twice daily along with remron 45mg and trazedone 40mg for sleep. i have stopped obsessing about not feeling desverving of him and stopped obsesssing about past mistakes, failures, what have you. in a matter of weeks. the only one added new for me is the clonazapem. maybe this will help you decide to try something new.:)
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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 1:16pm
Well..I am seeing his nurse.
She goes over what is going on then reports to him. Then he may or may not change things. My appt with him isn't until Dec 27.
Just sitting here typing, I am all tensed up and nervous...............
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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 1:50pm

Hi Tiny, I am sorry to hear about your situation. I can relate to you, but the feelings of not being worthy, I don't usually get.

You have been with your husband for 33 years? I wouldn't worry about him not loving you or wanting to be with you if you have been together that long. It sounds like you are blaming yourself for everything, and you don't appreciate yourself. When I start to feel insecure, or when I get down on myself, I usually do something nice for someone. I find when I feel not good enough for my boyfriend (which isn't often) I will do something nice for him, or tell him how much I love him. I will compliment his looks or his personality, and then I feel better about myself. Give him a massage, or cuddle with him. Having some romantic alone time helps me.

I hope I helped you a little. :)

Thanks,
Amy.

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