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| Sat, 12-02-2006 - 9:55am |
Hi there,
I need some help! I am starting to fall back. I am ruminating about friends, and why they are not calling me. I am starting to feel panicky that I am not loved, and that I am all alone. When will I feel my age and not like a 12 year old girl? It's almost as if I never left junior high. I need the "talk."
Thanks
xo, JD

(((Jolie))) I am sorry to hear about how much this is distressing you. A couple of times you have alluded to being a 12 yo girl. This is very common. When we can't cope well with our present problems, it's easy to revert to an earlier time in life when our responsibilities weren't as great. When pressures were non-existent. I have done this myself.
Much of what you're feeling now is tied into the changes with dh's business loss, your financial state & the uncertainty of your future. I don't know if this is the *talk* you want, but this is the only one I know. Forgive yourself, gf. Accept that this is a minor setback & a part of you that can be triggerd when stressed to the max. It's ok to feel this way. Allow yourself a specified period of time to ruminate, then move on. I have read that it takes 8 minutes to distract ourselves from our *inner critic.* Your's is working overtime): Find ways to keep busy. Upon looking @ my financial situation, I have decided that there is NO finances): this year, so rather than fret & stew & feel LOW, I am making alot of gifts. Looks like my dad will be getting one of those cheap fleece blankets he didn't know he needed;) I'm punching it up with a hand-embroidered trout in one corner & his grandkid's appointed nickname for him in the other. You CAN do this!!! You are a good friend, wife & mom. Don't allow the negativity to strip that away.
Here's a great link that covers all kinds of worrying, that we on the board are too dang good @: http://magazines.ivillage.com/goodhousekeeping/hb/health/articles/0,,287172_290457-1,00.html
It is the busy holiday time and a lot of people are busy getting ready for the holidays. They are so busy that they forget to connect with the ones the love and care about. But I have an idea. Why not contact your friends and set up a get together. They too might feel disconnect from their friends because they are busy with other things and now would be a good time to reconnect. Go out to eat or invite them over for pizza and a movie.
Sending out Holiday cards is also another way to connect with friends. In the card mention that you would like to get together.
With todays technology there are many ways to keep in touch with others-email, cell phones. So start calling and writing and see where that leads you.
(((hugs))) Jolie.
Sheri Ann