Anxiety/Jealousy?
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| Mon, 12-18-2006 - 1:44pm |
Ok...my ex boyfriend is the reason I started going to therapy. He said I was way too jealous and insecure. I didn't think I was at all out of place but he insisted that I was (he was also verbally abusive) so I'm wondering if I was really being jealous and insecure?
I was sitting behind him giving him a massage when he decided to check his email. There was one email from a lady titled "missing you" and she wanted to spend New Years Eve with him. I said "who is she?". He gave me an explanation, I said ok, and that was that.
Another time....he got a comment (on an online profile) from a female who said "I'll be over there to keep you warm as soon as I can". I asked him who she was and why she would be writing something like that and he got mad that I was accusing him of cheating and being jealous and insecure. So was I?
He said I shouldn't be asking him who people are.
Edited 12/18/2006 1:45 pm ET by shyshortie

Hi there,
I don't think that that is being jealous at all. If I saw something like in my boyfriends email, I would question it as well. If he wasn't hiding something then why would he care?
I think that an email like that is inappropriate to be sending to someone who is committed to someone else. Don't let other people put you down, or put idea's like that in your head. Sometimes we have gut feelings about something, and most of the time it is right. You had every right to ask him those questions.
Take care of yourself!
Amy
No, you weren't. Jealousy & insecurity is when you *think* that something's going on. You have proof that there is.
Why does he need a profile if he has you? Why do you allow him to verbally abuse you? This is very sad to read. You deserve better. Here's the Domestic Abuse board: