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| Sat, 12-23-2006 - 1:03am |
A lot of the time I’m REALLY shy and quiet. This is most of the time. Other times, I’m really outgoing , funny and interesting. This is rare. I tend to be REALLY shy around people who I’m intimidated by. These are the people who I feel are judging me, people who have an opinion of me already that I’m quiet and I don’t have the courage to change that opinion, people who I THINK think they are better than me, sometimes straight boys, etc. the people who I WANT to be my outgoing self around the most, I can’t. I just can’t find that side of me around some people. Other times, even with strangers who do not fit the above characteristics, I’m incredibly outgoing around. I’m so happy when I am. I wish I could be like that all of the time, and I try to be but can’t help it. I wouldn’t hate myself if I was. i want everyone to see that side of me, because that’s the side I don’t despise. That’s the side I don’t loathe. I feel like such a fake and a fraud, having two different sides of me. Especially when people discuss me. My friend was telling me, “I met this girl today and she knew you and said you were SUPER quiet. Psh I told her that’s not the same Jen that I know!â€
Also, I can GET intimidated by a close friend if we get into a fight, or they gain popularity or become more beautiful. EVEN MY BEST FRIENDS, I’ll change completely around and get shy and quiet.
How can I be my comfortable, confident self at least 80% of the time instead of 5%? Help me :'(

Hi, Jen! Welcome to our community. I was unsure from reading your post, what it is that makes you feel you have anxiety. Do you mean social anxiety? That is NOT shyness. We have members who suffer from
Sheri Ann