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| Wed, 12-27-2006 - 7:43pm |
Hi there,
I realize how silly this is going to "sound," however, I need to vent.
My girlfriend (whom ofcourse I think does not like me) hates to get chain email. You know, the dumb ones with the "get good luck" or "strike it rich" stuff. We all get them and delete them at the same time. Anyways, when she gave me her email, she gave me strict instructions not to send her crap. She was serious, but in a funny way. She meant business. I totally respect it, and I don't send her stuff. Today I got something, and I thought it was cute, so I send it on. By accident, I sent it to her and this is what she wrote back.
"ok, this is where I draw the line...PLEASE, no chain emails!"
My paranoid brain is so freaked out right now, because I think she is so mad at me. I apologized and told her I didn't mean it to be sent to her (which I didn't), and that I knew the rules. I am sick about it.
What 36 year old woman ruminates about a dumb email message? UH, ME! I need serious help. I am so upset with myself right now, that I want to cry. THis is crazy. I won't feel better, I know, until she sends me a normal message, or she makes a joke about it. It's all about the "tone" with me. I have never in my life met someone as insecure as me. I really am hating myself right now.
Thanks for listening. (If you could even read it without puking.)
xoxo, JD

Hi JD,
Anxiety disorders come with making mountains out of molehills and worrying about all sorts of things. It sounds like you have been very respectful of your friend and contacted her right away to straighten it out. Give yourself a break and try not to worry about it. (hugs)
If you're worried about accidentally sending something else, maybe take her email address out of your online address book and just write it down somewhere. I think it's pretty easy to just hit forward and send it to more people than you thought.
Smiles,
Dee
Hi JD, Let me assure you that she isn't so mad about an email that she would break up with you or write you off. I don't know any history on your relationship but just know she was probably just a little miffed, but isn't sitting there stewing about it, LOL. There are other things in life to stew about than a wayward chain email. I totally understand your fears though. Take comfort in the fact that most people aren't that shallow to write you off for a silly email. Overall DON'T WORRY, LOL. I just said that on an anxiety board, LMAO. All joking aside, when those little panicky feelings come up about this, just remind yourself that this is your anxiety talking, not reality. I'm sure you'll hear from her soon. Everything is ok.
Take a deep breath :)
Blessings!
It's really easy to read a lot of things into emails and misinterpret them. I wouldn't take it too personally. I had one friend who bombarded me with chain emails, and finally I told her that she couldn't send them to my work email address since it was being monitored. (Little white lie, but it is a good rule of thumb not to send those to people at work anyway.)
Also, try checking out any of those 'warning' or 'safety' or 'urban legend' emails on snopes.com before passing them on.
I really can't stand getting chain emails but most of the time I just delete them. Sometimes I will let someone know if I've checked something out on snopes.com and it's false so that they can stop forwarding it.
But I don't like my friends any less for sending them to me. :-) Don't worry about it! Just tell her it was an accident, I'm sure she'll understand.
My point was more of how upset I got from her tone and how much I read into things. It wasn't a "chain" letter, per say, it was just something cute and light hearted. I was just writing because I was more upset of how anxious it made me. Yes, the chain letters are annoying, and I do not send them to people at work. Snopes is always a good idea.
jd
I am a *ruminator* myself, Jolie. I got a big pit in my stomach just reading your post. How many people have I sent forwards to, that are upset about it but never say anything? @ least your gf isn't getting ulcers by holding her feelings inside;)
If she never speaks to you again(which I doubt) @ least you know why she wrote you out of her life. IMHO, that would be a very petty reason. You sent something that you felt was *cute* & not *chain mail.* She replied with her views & you apologized. It should be over. I know it's easier said than done, but move forward from this point. Life is too short to worry about this. I hope you're feeling better. Good luck! (((hugs))) jan
(((Hugs))) I've done the same thing & felt the same way :(
Sheri Ann