hi girls it's stace- I'm so stressed!!!

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hi girls it's stace- I'm so stressed!!!
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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 8:25am

and I didn't know where else to turn right now. Not only am I exhausted and trying to keep myself sane with the 4 kids, but I think my endometriosis is returning as well. I had it severely in 2001 and had to have surgery. I've been fine since, but I started getting symptoms a few days ago and I'm so scared. How would I ever handle it with 4 kids? I only had one kid back then. I keep telling myself the anxiety is feeding into it and I have to breathe and take it for what it is. I keep telling myself there is nothing I can do about it and I have to relax and let what happens happen. That's so difficult.

Anyway, thanks for just listening. I'm a mess!

Stacey

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 9:13am

((((Stacey))))

That sounds like a lot to handle. Just try to keep focusing on one thing at a time & try not to worry about things that aren't certain. I'm sure you plan to get checked out for the endometriosis. I hope it turns out okay, until then try not to focus on "what ifs".(always a challenge for me, I'm a champion worrier)

How old are your kids? :) My DD is three years.

Hugs,
Dee

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 9:21am

This is Stacey Stacemomto4 (I changed my screen name).....

I have 4 kiddos..........8, 5, 22 months and 4 months!

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 1:03pm

Hi, Stacey! Sorry to hear that you're so stressed. I hope you're able to break things down into small bites & not get overwhelmed by looking @ the entire picture. I have been guilty of totally shutting down, when I saw too much & expected too much.


I would not be surprised about the pelvic issues. Having given birth & now nursing Natalie, I am sure your hormones are all over the place. Please take care of yourself. Do NOT worry about those 4 kids NOW, before you see the dr. As my gramma always said, " don't borrow trouble." LOL *If* you need further treatment, then you can worry about the kids.


Sending P&PT's that your day goes better. GL! (((hugs))) jan

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 2:17pm

hi Jan. Thanks for your kind words. I know I shouldn't "borrow trouble" but it's so hard not to get into the anxiety cycle and then break yourself. I've been there. Don't want to go back. To me, it's the worst case scenario. I just don't know how I'd handle it. I know I'll be ok, but it's just so difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you are five miles into the deep cave KWIM?

Lots of issues going on at the house and my son is still having panic attacks whenever he is around electronics.....what is that all about? Anyway, the kids all want mommy all the time, no one sleeps and I'm just exhausted. I keep saying that every day is a new day and I have to take it for what it's worth, but it's so hard.

I'm so glad I found this board. You ladies are hte best! Thanks everyone for all your support and I hope to see you in chat on Thursday!

Stacey
(I changed the name to AlleyCatNat in honor of Natalie my little Alley Cat!). Sorry if I confused any of you!

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 2:27pm

hi stacey


sorry to hear your having such a hard time...i can relate:(


i agree w/jan...try not to "what if" the future....just take it day by day...


now if i could only live by this advice

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 7:25pm

(((Stacey)))

Sheri Ann

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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 7:39pm

Hi Stacey,

You did lose me on the name change there. LOL Hope you feel better.

Hugs,
Dee

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 8:15am

Thanks Sheri.....you are so right. Worrying will not help. I felt a bit better last night and my counselor called me at about 7:30ish and we talked for a bit. She told me that I'm doing a great job and that the endo is most likely not coming back. See, it's just my biggest fear! I was debilitated for more than a year and couldn't even take care of my own child. I went into a bad depression and it took me a while to get out! I just don't EVER want to go back there. I know I have no control over health issues (and I do believe they did a study that found stress was linked to endo) so I'm going to try and make some life changes and relax more. I think I may join a local yoga class....maybe, just maybe, it will help. I so need some time to just breathe sometimes.

I will do my best to be in chat tonight. I miss you girls so much! Thanks for all your support.

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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 8:03pm

I took a couple of yoga classes, now I do it on my own

Sheri Ann