Hello everyone.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Hello everyone.
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Tue, 01-16-2007 - 9:16pm
I just wanted to drop in and say hi. I have not showed my face here in a year due to issues with panic disorder in a relationship that I had. It still saddens me to have to have a physical reaction to dating someone but at least I know a litte more about what causes it.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 12:30am

You are always welcome here, Jay. Our members know what anxiety is like & can relate to what you have experienced. Many of us have had setbacks or took what seemed to be forever to learn how to cope in situations. I still have panic or @ least near panic in WalMart.


How are you doing? Still working? Did you continue in the relationship? We can all learn from sharing our experiences. Maybe you'll feel comfortable. Maybe not. We care about you all the same & wish you the best. Keep in touch. (((hugs))) jan

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:20am

Hello,

No I did not continue it. She did come here in July of last year because she was in a nearby city visiting relatives so we went to Niagara Falls and it felt like 10 months had not gone by. We have kept in touch but did not venture back into the relationship. There were a few other issues also on her end. One was our distance. It is sad because I would have liked to know that I was not ready for her but not have to have anxiety and panic attacks about it. That is the part that still bothers me about it. I am still working two jobs though and back in the Martial Arts.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 9:05pm

Welcome back!

Sheri Ann

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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 10:01pm

Well as far as anything working I am not sure except not being with that person cured it instantly. I was trying self-help books, positive thinking strategies, and some meditation and it never really did that much towards the end of 2005. I knew on some level it was not her fault that I had the reactions. Through the last year and a half I found out that I really maybe was not ready for her and that was the anxiety. It would get so bad; panic attacks, anxiety, sleepness nights and so forth. I told the therapist that I wished I had been able to just know things and not have to have physical reactions because of it. I had all kinds of people give me all kinds of theories about what happened and why. I could never explain it all because not everything was clear but I know something was not right. Even through all of that stuff happened I am still thinking of her at times and am flooded with memories other times. That is the sad part. If it was just one thing like the relationship that would be ok. But when you have all of that plus the anxiety it just left me exhauseted, hurt with unaswered questions. I just think it has a lot to do with my wiring and the panic alarm going off.

It was funny because she came here just last July to visit a relative in a neighbooring city. The anxiety came back with in one day....!!...One day I mean I could not believe it that after 10 months it was still there. I thought I had made a lot of changes and had some perspective on this whole thing. It is just a mixed up mess.