Hormones sure can do a number on us): Though I have never had severe fluctuations in mood, I notice the anxiety about a week before I start my period. If it gets worse or doesn't seem to improve, Yavonne, then seeing the dr. is probably the best thing for you.
If it's just a few *off* days, then accepting it as nothing more than being a bit overwhelmed,& the kids getting on your last nerve is nothing to stress you out about. All kids seem to know which buttons to push & when mom is the most vulnerable.
Boy do I know what you are talking about :) Juggling work, household duties, wifely duties and mom is more than anyone can handle. I've got 5 kids and I stay at home. I chuckled a little when I read the part in your post where you check on the kids and their light is ON. Our older boys are upstairs and I guess they dont' think light or sound can travel out of their little space, LOL. I find myself screaming up the stairs that they better turn that darned light off and get themselves to sleep in 2 minutes!! LOL! You didn't say how old your kids were, but it REALLY helped me to have a bedtime routine. Keeping kids on a consistant routine helps them know what is "next" in their day. Mine come home from school, do their homework, get a snack, play or whatever, before supper is ready they have "zone time" aka clean up, they eat, get baths, maybe a story and then bed. All lights off, no books or toys in bed. Usually this works, but again, they are kids, LOL. There are hefty consequences if they don't go to bed. I also make sure we haven't watched any scary or action packed movies just before bed or have any "heavy" convos.
I think hormones have a great deal to do with our mood swings. Mine usually get worse around my period, but I can fly off the handle pretty quickly even if it's not period time. My doctor diagnosed my as having Cyclothymia, which mainly means bi-polar. Maybe keep a log of things that happen during the day, what triggered your outburst and how you reacted, that way you have something concrete to show your doctor, because usually in a rage, we don't remember exactly what made us mad in the first place.
If you have any "small comforts" that you can take with you during the day, such as a special tea or coffee that makes you feel relaxed, lotions or even music that you can play at your workplace, bring them. There are also ALOT of essential oils that help balance our moods...lavender, tangerine and geranium are a few. Just keep these in your desk and if you start to feel out of sorts, put a couple drops on a tissue and tuck inside your collar or in your bra where you will smell it. You can also do a search on mood balancing essential oils on the web to find out more. You can buy essential oils at most health food stores and I've seen them at most Bath and Body Works stores.
I know where you're coming from. My meds have finally kicked in. Nighttime was when I used to get major panic/anxiety. My girls are older (twins, 6 and a 9 year old) but just the whole checking homework, making lunches, putting together snacks for after school program, reading, etc was really stressing me out! Just anticipating it would set the anxiety in motion. I just noticed the other night that while it still stresses me out, it doesn't set me into panic mode. LOL Oy vay. My dh said it totally stresses him out too. And then you want time to yourself and all you want to do is collapse into bed with a book.
You have a little baby too - don't forget your hormones are probably running wild. I always felt it took a full year before I felt like things were back to normal after childbirth. I went on the pill after my oldest was born and it gave me major mood swings, so I went off it after a couple of months.
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Hormones sure can do a number on us): Though I have never had severe fluctuations in mood, I notice the anxiety about a week before I start my period. If it gets worse or doesn't seem to improve, Yavonne, then seeing the dr. is probably the best thing for you.
If it's just a few *off* days, then accepting it as nothing more than being a bit overwhelmed,& the kids getting on your last nerve is nothing to stress you out about. All kids seem to know which buttons to push & when mom is the most vulnerable.
Please take care of yourself. Get in some *me*
hugs...
you DO have your plate full w/3 kids! 2 is enought for me:)
just wanted to say hi and offer my support!
i hope you feel better soon. keep us posted.
Boy do I know what you are talking about :) Juggling work, household duties, wifely duties and mom is more than anyone can handle. I've got 5 kids and I stay at home. I chuckled a little when I read the part in your post where you check on the kids and their light is ON. Our older boys are upstairs and I guess they dont' think light or sound can travel out of their little space, LOL. I find myself screaming up the stairs that they better turn that darned light off and get themselves to sleep in 2 minutes!! LOL! You didn't say how old your kids were, but it REALLY helped me to have a bedtime routine. Keeping kids on a consistant routine helps them know what is "next" in their day. Mine come home from school, do their homework, get a snack, play or whatever, before supper is ready they have "zone time" aka clean up, they eat, get baths, maybe a story and then bed. All lights off, no books or toys in bed. Usually this works, but again, they are kids, LOL. There are hefty consequences if they don't go to bed. I also make sure we haven't watched any scary or action packed movies just before bed or have any "heavy" convos.
I think hormones have a great deal to do with our mood swings. Mine usually get worse around my period, but I can fly off the handle pretty quickly even if it's not period time. My doctor diagnosed my as having Cyclothymia, which mainly means bi-polar. Maybe keep a log of things that happen during the day, what triggered your outburst and how you reacted, that way you have something concrete to show your doctor, because usually in a rage, we don't remember exactly what made us mad in the first place.
If you have any "small comforts" that you can take with you during the day, such as a special tea or coffee that makes you feel relaxed, lotions or even music that you can play at your workplace, bring them. There are also ALOT of essential oils that help balance our moods...lavender, tangerine and geranium are a few. Just keep these in your desk and if you start to feel out of sorts, put a couple drops on a tissue and tuck inside your collar or in your bra where you will smell it. You can also do a search on mood balancing essential oils on the web to find out more. You can buy essential oils at most health food stores and I've seen them at most Bath and Body Works stores.
Hang in there!
Hey Heather!
I know where you're coming from. My meds have finally kicked in. Nighttime was when I used to get major panic/anxiety. My girls are older (twins, 6 and a 9 year old) but just the whole checking homework, making lunches, putting together snacks for after school program, reading, etc was really stressing me out! Just anticipating it would set the anxiety in motion. I just noticed the other night that while it still stresses me out, it doesn't set me into panic mode. LOL Oy vay. My dh said it totally stresses him out too. And then you want time to yourself and all you want to do is collapse into bed with a book.
You have a little baby too - don't forget your hormones are probably running wild. I always felt it took a full year before I felt like things were back to normal after childbirth. I went on the pill after my oldest was born and it gave me major mood swings, so I went off it after a couple of months.
Hang in there!
Thanks.
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