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| Sun, 01-21-2007 - 2:40pm |
Okay so does anyone else have problems with their family members talking about you behind your back to everyone except you to find out what is going on? Lemme tell you....I understand and appreciate that my husbands family is concerned about me because I have lost so much weight due to the thyroid and adrenal problem and im really not gaining any back (but im eating alot better) but instead of coming to me they call my husband and say hey, stop by here and try to talk to him....what makes me mad is one person in particular because not once since I have been sick has she called to see how I was, stopped by, or inquired ME about what was going on and what my doctors have found...is this crazy for me to be upset about? this person and I do not have a good history...she didn't want us to get married and i think has always thought that i wasn't good enough, but if she is concerned she should come to me, don't go talking behind my back about it you know? the artificial sweeteners i was consuming messed my digestive tract up pretty badly so I cant eat as much as I used to, but my doctor said that will come back in time...i dont know it just bothers me and i feel like calling her or emailing her or even asking my naturopath doctor to sit down with everyone and explain to them what happened and stuff...does anyone have any suggestions? I mean, I know im getting better...everyone just thinks its going to happen overnight and it doesnt work that way....grrr don't mean to sound bitchy but I NEEDED TO VENT!!! lol...anywho hope everyone is having a good day!! Its snowing here and is really pretty...anyone else getting wintery weather?
Krista

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However People in general talk about others all the time expecially
FEMALES!! It annoys me as it does you and I have gone to some people
and told them to just ask if they want info!! TO NO AVAIL I MIGHT ADD!!
YOU dont owe anyone an explanation!!! Go on with your life and ignore
this RUDE PERSON!! HUGS!! Judy
Have you ever heard that old saying? If they're talking about me, then they're leaving everyone else alone? Try to let this roll off your back. I know that it's a source of anxiety for us. Many times I have worried myself sick over what others have been saying about me. It's tough, but you have the power to let this effect you alot, a little or not @ all.
I have to agree with Judy. Even if you published all the info in the local paper about your condition, there will always be those folks who
Thank you, Jan...I thought about it today and she actually does have issues with herself and I realized this when I thought back to New Years eve...she was saying how she should do a laxative diet and lose weight like I did by pooping constantly...of course I looked at her like she was crazy and told her she was nuts...the thyroid and adrenal problem also plays a huge role in all the weight I lost...so yes, I think she has a weight complex with me once again because this actually happened to me about 7 years ago or so...(i think i have had thyroid/adrenal problems for awhile, but no doctor could find anything wrong with me) I dropped a whole ton of weight for no reason and was really small for almost 4 years, but I ate like a horse and was healthy but his whole family thought i was bulemic...so anyway...but my naturopath doctor is also counseling me about alot of that stuff and told me I need not to worry about anything that anyone else says...im getting better and that is all that matters, and if I stay tiny again, I stay tiny...but i just wanted to say thanks, and I am going to work on that whole thing about not worrying what others say...sometimes I just get worried because I don't want to think my husband is talking about me as well...because that would really hurt :( but thank you for letting me vent!!!
Krista
THANK YOU JUDY!!! Lol I need all the woman power I can get....who knows I might just tell her to bite me and get it over with hee hee....sorry feeling spunky tonite :)
Krista
I can understand your frustration and your worry about what they're saying about you. But, all you can do is try to not let it bother you. Also, you mentioned that you guys don't have the best relationship to begin with. Depending on what she's saying to your dh, it could just be that she doesn't think you'd welcome her concern or inquiries about what's going on with you.
Sorry, but I have a nasty habit of trying to see situations and people in the best light possible. lol I really do understand how upsetting it would be to be in your situation. I've been there as well. So, I say, just focus on getting better, and talk to your dh about what is and isn't okay to discuss with others. You have your right to privacy, too.
Krista, does your dh tell them what is going on?
Sheri Ann
negatives in our lives without some dumb person making us feel
like hell!!!! Keep the attitude!! Judy
Hey Sheri Ann...I am not sure whether or not he tells them anything because they always ask when I am not around, and when I ask him he explains to them about the medical stuff that is going on or at least that is what he tells me, and I would hope he is not saying anything behind my back either or we would have some issues of our own lol and if he is eventually I will find out about it...I don't think he would but at the beginning of our marriage I had huge problems with him going behind my back and talking about me which is what started a huge feud between my sister in law and I to begin with....so I would hope he would not do that because I will find out lol...on a brighter note I found a wonderful psychiatrist whom I just started seeing today...she actually spent two hours talking with me and is totally supportive of what my naturopath is doing which is wonderful...alot of them just think all of that is crazy, so I feel fortunate to have found her!! I hope everyone is having a good and relaxed day...much love and hugs to everyone...
Krista
Oh, I totally agree. And I hope that she is really concerned, I just have my boundaries up with her because of what happened in the past, and I don't want it to happen again lol. but yah, I did have a talk with my husband about what to say and not to say, because I don't want it turned around into something its not, and I was proud of myself today for not letting it still bother me, because usually things eat at me and I worry about them, but like my great naturopath says follow your own path, don't worry about what others say or think...because you can only walk your path...I just love her. So today is a good day....tomorrow i get to clean my house so that might be not so fun hahaha...but thank you!!
Krista
That's great about the psychiatrist!
Sheri Ann
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