Jealousy about friends
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Jealousy about friends
| Wed, 01-31-2007 - 7:16am |
I have a friend who I'm really close to, he's like a brother to me and since I lost my brother, he is really special. He's in a technical school and the other day he told my husband that these girls in his class were "hitting on him". He's married and all that. The girls were younger, around 25 and up. They were asking him questions about if he was married, if he was happily married and if he drank and stuff like that. He is a very friendly person and kind of flirtatious. My fear seems so stupid, because like I said we are really close, but I'm afraid that he will like these girls more than me. I think he is going to join their study group. They also asked if he drank and he said no, so they asked him to be their designated driver (yeah right) and he said no, he better not. I'm just afraid that these chicks will "draw him in". I feel so stupid for being jealous about something like this, because I know that's not what he's there for and our friendship is really great. He travels with us and all that. I guess I just need some reassurance.

I may be confusing posts, but is this the same friend whose wife was jealous of you and wanted to travel with you, your husband and her husband on the trips?
It sounds like this friend means a lot to you and you said is like a younger brother, but this sounds like maybe some of these jealousies and uncomfortable situations should be a sign that maybe you need to to take a closer look and be really truthful with yourself about your relatonship and intentions.
You obviously want to keep this fellow as a close friend, yet it seems like there are some strong and maybe not appropriate emotions involved. Any good relationship involves boundaries and with both of you being married, it seems like that would be something to think about.
(Been talking with my *T about boundaries and parental/in-law issues. LOL)
I hope you can work through this and not lose a friend.
Smiles,
Dee
Is his wife jealous?
Sheri Ann
I'm glad you were able to talk to him!
Hugs,
Dee
I was thinking this sounds like "What About Brian?", Monday's episode, lol.
Sheri Ann