AHHHH BIGGEST SHOCK EVER
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AHHHH BIGGEST SHOCK EVER
| Thu, 02-08-2007 - 4:00pm |
Hello all, I hope everyone is doing well. OMG!!!!!! I am in the biggest shock of my entire life and my anxiety is going out of control. I'm going to need all you ladies more than I ever have.
Okay everyone please don't judge or

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Sorry I accidently pressed enter and it posted my message before I had the chance to finish. That's how crazy I am right now!
Okay let me start over. Please don't judge or think I'm insane. I have been feeling very sick latley so and my period was late so I took a test last night and it was positive! I am freakin pregnant and I'm only 21 years old. I have only known my bf for six months. I know he'll be a good father and I really do love him, but I am so not ready to be a mother...yet. Abortion is complety out of the question (moral/religious beliefs) and I don't really think I could go through with adoption. So we decided to keep the baby. Yes this is the same man that I have been having relationship anxiety about. I guess maybe this gives me a reason to stop having relationship anxiety and trust the relationship as well as him and myself. It was so unplanned and unexpected. I used birth control for gosh sakes. To make matters worse My older sister is pregnant too (due April 7th) and my other older sister just had a baby (jan. 22) and my older older sister had a baby 1 1/2 years ago. My parents are gonna die!!!!!! I'm not eally worried financially because he is very stable and I have a good job and he already owns a home. I'm just scared that I am going to be someone's mother, responsible for another life especially when i'm not even mentally ready.
Is it okay to continue Prozac during pregnancy? I don't think I will be able to cope without it. 2007 hates me. 1st a horrible car accident, now this!
(((Jules))) I know that you're very stressed now, but you need to get some *real life* help. You need to call your dr. ASAP. We cannot tell you what meds are ok to take during pregnancy. This determination must be made by your health care professional. Please do the right thing in making that call. You need to have the pregnancy confirmed.
As for your indecision, we will support you in what ever path you choose. All moms to be, regardless of age or marital status have worries about motherhood. Talking to a therapist is a good idea @ this time. Even a clergyperson can give you some direction since you have strong religious beliefs. I wish you the best of luck & the best possible outcome in your decision making. GBU! jan
Thanks Jan,
I have an appointment next Friday so we will see what happens. I suppose it wll be confirmed, but i'm pretty sure that's the case because I have every symptom under the sun. It's just a shock because I seriously never thought this would happen at this age, but then again you never know what could happen. That's what I get for even doing the deed :) Well thanks again for your support and understanding. Darn life always throws that curve ball at ya. I know I would make a good mother and I have always wanted kids and to raise a family I just didn't expect this and to have to make this decision at this point in my life. Well at least I'm not 16 or anyhting :) Atleast I have graduated high school and have a college degee. Just trying to be positive is all because I still feel too young for this step, commitment, decision, complete life change, and the fact that I will be someone's mother for the rest of my life whether I like it or not. I just can't think of giving up my baby or aborting it, I just couldn't live with myself. I know this is our (my bf and I) doing and our responsiblility. Thanks so much for understanding if you can that is.
Wow, Jules!
Sheri Ann
hey there! congrats!
Just let this all sink in and just take each day as it comes. The best thing you can do is inform yourself, read books on pregancy, take care of yourself and get plenty of rest. You'll probably feel really tired anyway, so that won't be a problem, LOL. If you need any info on pregnancy and birth, that is my forte, I'm a professional labor assitant.
It's great that you both have really good jobs and that he is pretty settled, so that's one less thing to worry about. In time you will probably feel less anxiety about it all.
I would ask your doctor about the Prozac.
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions. Again, congrats and take care. :D
Amy
I can understand how you feel. I myself went through many internal conflicts when I found out I was pregnant with my son. I'm 21 years old as well, and he is 14 mos old now.. ;) Young mommies unite! I'll admit I contemplated abortion, but there was no way I could go through with it (also moral beliefs.. plus my boyfriend is Catholic.. eep).
Anyhow. I did some reading on webmd.com - it says prozac should only be used when absolutely necessary during pregnancy, because it can cause withdrawal symptoms in the infant when it is born. But definitely talk to a doctor before doing anything.
It's kinda funny how all your family is also having babies - but look at it this way. When they are growing up, they will all have built-in playmates! You might find this to be the best thing that ever happened to you. It's scary. But things will get easier. I cried a lot during pregnancy worrying about everything, and it all turned out okay in the end. Things will work out somehow. Good luck with the boyfriend and everything. You will be okay. If you want to talk or email me my AOL Screen name is Nightmarescape, and my email is lindashirley@gmail.com ..
Lin.
Thanks so much for all of your replies and support. It feels so good to know I'm not alone. As the days go by I am getting more at ease especially since we are engaged now :) My bf (I mean my fiance) said he wanted to purpose as soon as possible because he knew it would make him and myself feel a whole lot better about our situation as well as our parents.LOL. It is really scary, but I know things will get better.
Thanks everyone
xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Oh, that's so exciting! It sounds like your bf, I mean fiance ;-), is a great guy.
I bet you are having a much different Valentine's Day than you envisioned a few weeks ago!
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