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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 5:42pm

I have been having real bad anixiety, I can't sleep,or I sleep for days and I don't get out of my PJs.I am constantly worrying over everything. I just want to go into "my world" and stay there. I talked to my friend a little about what is going but I feel so alone and I don't know what to do (not like me at all) I usually have a "plan" and work the "plan". They say I should go see a T but I don't know the last time I went he made me feel worse than when I was just in my little depressed world and I swore I would never go back. I have gotten so good at just letting pepole see what I want them to see, I never let them see the "monster" that lives inside of me but now with me spinning all the time, I am afraid that I losing control of it.I just want to get back to were I was "OK" or something that resembles OK. I just don't know how.

Thanks for listening and any advice is appreciated.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: lil_bear22
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 5:56pm

That's a shame you feel as you do. I have been anxious & depressed to the point where I didn't get out of bed or out of my pj's. I can assure you that there is help. There is hope. However, you will need to give yourself a push to get to that help.


First, I would see the doctor. It is possible that you have a medical problem that is contributing to how you feel. Nothing major & all fixable, such as anemia or low blood sugar, etc. If the dr. agrees that it is anxiety/depression, A *plan* can be developed for you. Antidepressants are commonly prescribed & are successful. Therapy works, but you need to find someone who is skilled in dealing with how you're feeling & you should *click* with that person. Your dr. should be able to get you the referral you need.


You can begin your own *plan* & start your recovery today. Using the small step method, you can push yourself into taking a shower & putting on street clothes. Tomorrow, you can do the same & add a short walk to your routine. Each day add a couple activities such as phoning a friend or family member. Cleaning one room in your home. Doing a load of laundry. Going to the library or to have coffee with a friend.


Think positively. When negative thoughts try to bring you down, write down 20 accomplishments you have made in your life. This will take time, but we'll be here to support you in regaining your life. Good luck & GBU! (((hugs))) jan

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Registered: 11-25-2005
In reply to: lil_bear22
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:45pm
Bear HUGS TO YOU!!! I know how you feel!!
Jan gave you the best advice NUMBER ONE SEE A DOCTOR!!
This is not like you is what you said sooooo FIND OUT WHY!!!
Take care and let us know! Judy
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Registered: 07-16-2006
In reply to: lil_bear22
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi There!
I am posting to say that I completely agree with Jan. There are many avenues you can take to feel better. Your doctor is a great place to start. I have talked to many therapists and only "clicked" and accepted care from three. It is just a matter of finding someone who works with your personality and goals.

You can get lots of advice and support from here. Welcome!!

:)Laura

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Registered: 10-27-2006
In reply to: lil_bear22
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 10:39pm
Hi there hon. Hugs to you, we have all been where you are, some still are, but Jan is right, it WILL get better, it CAN get better. When all this started for me, all I could think of was getting some medicine to make it GO AWAY NOW!! Well, now that I got some meds, they didn't make it go away NOW like I wanted, but it did get better. It just takes a little time. I totally know that this is NOT what you want to hear, but if you want to have any degree of control over this, you really need to see a therapist of some sort. Meds can totally help, but unless you get to the root of your problem, if you go off your meds, it will just come back. Believe me, I know from experience. I am sorry you had such a crappy experince with your last T. You should never feel bad coming out of an appt like that. It is true, it really is important to see someone who you "click" with. Have you thought about maybe seeing a woman T instead?? I didn't think I would care, then when I started going and saw the other male T walking thru the office, I thought "wow, I am so glad I got in with my T, I don't think I would feel comfortable telling him all the stuff I have told her". Ask around to people you trust to see if they know someone who might be good. Or ask your Dr. I also agree about pushing yourself a little bit each day, even if its just to shower and get dressed. I would always get up and force myself to make my bed right away so I wasn't tempted to just get back in and hide after the kids went to school. Then I started showering and getting dressed even when I had nowhere to go. Then I started putting on make-up again. Its just little things, but you will feel so much better for it. Be proud of your accomplishments, they may seem small, but for people in our state of mind, its big. I also can relate to feeling out of control, and feel like you are fooling everyone in your world that you are "ok" when you feel like a basket case!!! My whole thing with this is that I want to get it under control. You can, but it is taking time, and I have finally accepted that it isn't a quick fix if I want it to last long term. You CAN turn this around, just remember that. I sure hope tomorrow is a better day for you hon! We are all here to support you so please come back again!! Hugs, Erin
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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: lil_bear22
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 12:09pm

ITA with Jan.

Sheri Ann

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Registered: 02-18-2007
In reply to: lil_bear22
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 5:46pm
Thanks for all the advice, it as helped a little that I am not as “crazy” as I thought I was.
I have ADD so I have always been a little wounded up and have had to deal with it very aggressively to keep on track but this is a totally different feeling. I get up ever morning praying “today is going to be better” and it’s been a long time since today actually was better than yesterday. I just feel like I am spinning around chasing my tail, in a deep hole and I don’t know the way out.
After my bad experiences I have to be dragged to the Dr. even when I am sick enough to go. I really don't know my Dr. that well probably seen her once in the last 2yrs and that was for a broken bone. So I mention to my friend your advice and she was telling me how to get around the whole going to the Dr. thing and how to set an appt. with the T. She made me promise I would at least go once to the T she recommended. I don’t know though it makes me very nervous about going and I haven’t even made the appointment yet.
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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: lil_bear22
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 8:03pm

I can understand your reluctance, but understand that each therapist is very different, has different views, different treatment techniques, etc...

Sheri Ann