still haven't made up my mind
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| Thu, 02-22-2007 - 4:53pm |
Awhile back, I posted about how I was undecided about whether to attend a relative's wedding. Here is my original post:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhpanic&msg=20564.1&x=y
I would be seriously uncomfortable and on edge if I went, not to mention the fact that I haven't seen or spoken to these relatives since a funeral 3 1/2 years ago. And it was interesting that most of the people here who replied said I shouldn't go. It was the same case on the other board where I posed the question.
Today was my last session with my therapist and I posed the same question to her. If I had been able to continue therapy, I would have asked her closer to the wedding (which isn't until this fall), but before I left therapy, I wanted to get her take on it.
Are you ready for this? She thinks I should go. She says that I wouldn't be going for the bride and her parents, but that I would be doing this for my dad (the relatives are on his side of the family). And that if I didn't go, it would really upset him (this is true). She suggested going and making the best of it and if need be, sneaking a book to the reception and hiding out in the ladies room. Also taking advantage of the open bar (within reason, of course).
So now I'm more confused than ever.


I guess it's ok that you're *t* suggested you go, but that sort of leaves you hanging without her support if any problems arise. That's like saying here's the flint, by the day of the wedding you ought to be able to make a fire. Hmm... I must be watching too much Survivor;)
TBH, I only attend