NEW HERE!! - sorry so long

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Registered: 04-28-2006
NEW HERE!! - sorry so long
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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:47am
I found this board by accident and boy am I glad!! I could type a book here!! To start off, hello everyone, my name is Angie I'm 31 yrs old new mommy of a 4month old little boy, whom I couldnt imagine my life without. I have been married almost 7yrs together 14 yrs. I have suffered with panic attacks for about 15 yrs. My newest is I can not drive over bridges and if I absolutley have to I feel light headed and I'm afraid that I am going to pass out and wreck and drive over the edge!! Its debilitating. I get very anxious around alot of people, its sucks to feel this way, I want to feel normal and not have all these fears inside me.. My life has changed drastically since having my son, there is no "me time" anymore and sometimes I get so angry inside and I cry alot about it because I feel like a selfish person, God gave me this wonderful child why why am I having these feelings. Please now that I would never hurt my child, he is the love of my life. My husband and I are always arguing which throws me into an anxiety attack. I take Xanax which helps to calm me down. I think I have alot of anger in me and I'm not sure where it all stems from. I'm probably not making any since am I. I'm deprressed, I feel lonely, I feel incomplete for some reason, I could cry at the drop of a hat. I'm afraid my marriage is in trouble!! I have no sex drive and I just had a baby and my hubby cant seem to grasp that its only been 4 moths and I dont want to have sex 2 or 3 times a wk, I hate the way my body looks now, I want to go to the gym but there is no time, I know I sound vain but I had a nice shape and now I feel frumpy, and I think that has alot to do with the no sex..are these feelings normal?? I've tried very anti depressant out there, Prozac, Paxil, Lexapro, Eff etc!!! I'm waiting for my insurance to kick in so i can get Sarafim (sp) that seems to work the best. I also take Restoril for sleeping, I feel so dependent on drugs for my daily functioning... I know this is long and if you have read this far thank you and please comment me back and help me!!!

 

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 11:29am

welcome.gifHi, Angie! We are happy to have you in our supportive community. Our members are very generous in sharing their thoughts & experiences with others.


I am sorry that you are going through a rough patch. Has anyone, perhaps your medical dr. ob/gyn or a psychiatrist examined you for post partum depression? I am NOT suggesting this is your diagnosis. We cannot diagnose you, as that must be done by a medical professional. But, having suffered many of the symptoms you have expressed after the birth of my second child, I would advise you to seek advice in this direction. It is so close after the birth of your baby & this does not seem to be just *baby blues* that quickly pass. You seem to be moving in the right direction with the medication. There are other families of antidepressants that can be used since you seem to have trouble with SSRI's. Also, alot of the people who post to this board, have found help by seeing a therapist. You can discuss what you're feeling with someone who understands, will be non-judgemental & will offer guidance. You CAN learn to cope with anxiety. A counselor can teach you relaxation exercises & breathing techniques.


Please put yourself first. Just as they advise on airplanes that for safety, the mom should put her oxygen mask on first, if she will be able to help her baby, that is what you must do. Getting well & seeking help MUST come from YOU! Make the *me* time. Get back to the exercise routine. It will burn off anxiety, lift the depression & generally give you a healthier & better life.


We care about you & know that you will get better. It will take some time, but soon you'll be right as rain. GL&GBU! (((hugs))) jan


Edit: I know all about the bridges. I have panicked on many. The techniques of relaxation & belly breathing have really saved my behind. Our town has bridges connecting everything because we are along a major river, as well as those dang tributaries or whatever they call them;) I always thought that I would have to get out of my car & jump, if the trapped feeling occurred. Well... 36 years later I am STILL here. These thoughts are very real & very scary. In spite of that, YOU WILL NOT ACT ON THEM! That is fact! You can use the small step approach when you get the anxiety more under control, Angie. It will come:)



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