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Registered: 05-29-2003
need support
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Tue, 03-06-2007 - 8:39pm

Hi there,

I feel myself sinking into a terrible anxiety mode. I am trying desperatly to not let myself, but I am finding that my anxiety is taking over. Sometimes, I don't even know what it is that is bothering me. It is just this on going lump in my throat or twinge in my stomach. I am finding myself worried about relationships that don't matter, and finding myself so "envious" or "jealous" of other people's friendships. I feel very left out of things, and not quite sure where my place is. Some calming advice would be great.

I just started cymbalta a few weeks ago. I am on 60mg, but maybe I need to up it. I thought it was working, but I find the ruminating and me being "stuck" on crap is coming back. The saddest part is that I don't feel remotly comfortable talking to my husband about this, and I know my friends don't want to be around anyone who is so insecure.

Thanks for reading.

Jo

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: jlvst
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 9:50pm

I am sorry to hear this Jolie. Have you talked w/the dr. about your cymbalta dose?


I am glad that you feel comfortable in posting here. I think it's all in learning to accept yourself. These feelings you have are real, but NOT accurate. If we were to talk with your family & friends, I am positive that they care. The ruminating can keep us DOWN. So, you need to focus on the positives in your life. Learn to worry more effectively. I know that's difficult, but keeping our anxieties/fears in perspective is essential. I hope you feel better soon. Keep us posted & don't forget chat. We care. (((hugs))) jan

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Registered: 01-03-2007
In reply to: jlvst
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 10:58pm

I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling down.

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Registered: 11-25-2005
In reply to: jlvst
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 12:27am
Jo I KNOW how you feel!! I have felt that way too!
What you need to do is think about what you really really want
and figure out how to get it! POSITIVE THINKING and a good
attitude will help you!! If you are insecure pretend you are not!!
PRETEND YOU ARE SOMEONE ELSE---- maybe one of those gorgeous, popular,
funny, charming women......... I AM SURE YOU ARE ONE OF THEM!! BUT IT
GOT LOST IN THE ANXIETY!!! GET HER BACK!!!!!
YOU GET WHAT YOU THINK YOU WILL! Be grateful for what you have and
you will feel happiness and security! HUGS!! Judy
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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: jlvst
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 8:44am
Thank you for the kind words. I really need them right now!!
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Registered: 02-19-2007
In reply to: jlvst
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 11:04am
Hugs, Jo, so sorry you're feeling that way. I'm new to anxiety myself, but I'm wondering if your symptoms could be depression-related? I don't know if Cymbalta will help, but I know sometimes it takes awhile for the right med to work. I have had similar feelings, like I don't measure up to others, but my self-esteem issues seem to come and go. When I'm doing something I enjoy, like making a difference for someone, and when I take better care of myself with diet and exercise, I feel better about myself. My husband doesn't always get it, either, but this board it a good place to share. I hope you feel better soon - hang in there! Hugs, AJ
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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: jlvst
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 12:08pm

(((Hugs)))) Jolie.

Sheri Ann