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| Wed, 03-14-2007 - 7:43am |
Hi All,
Today is a day that I dread... I have to do interviews and hire for my store. Everytime that it comes around everyone always treats me like I'm a total nutcase.
"Don't you know that you are not the one that needs to impress anyone?"
"You're in control of the situation, what are you nervous about?"
and from my district manager yesterday:
"You're confident, you're capable, don't be silly."
So why have I been throwing up all morning??? Why do I shake like a leaf for two days prior to the interviews, and whenever I think about them? Interviewing for me is a VERY real fear. I'm not 100% sure where it stems from.... but it's there, and it doesn't go away.
Sorry, I just had to vent, and had to share that I just don't feel like me today. I'm just praying that I don't have an anxiety attack... but it seems inevitable.
El






I hope you are having an ok day! I am sending you vibes for NO Panic Attacks!!! It sucks when people don't understand our anxiety and our triggers. I think we have all had situations where others have made us feel "crazy" or different. Its so frustrating, I know. Even though YOU know that what they are saying is true, its hard to make your body and those physical symptoms understand that too!!! Please try to take some deep breaths and think of WHY you are in the position to do these interviews. Obviously many people have confidence in you and feel you are qualified to make these decisions. I am sure there is a reason for that even if you don't see it. Try to think of all you have accomplished in your life to this point and what things you have overcome, no matter how small. My T had me do that and at first I was like "nothing, I can't think of anything signifigant" but then I thought about it and could think of lots of things. Like taking care of my family, marrying young and staying married thru the hard stuff, helping others, trying to be the best person I can. All those things are what make you strong even if you don't FEEL strong sometimes. I bet you have lots of those things in you, you just need to take them out and examine them to remember what a confident and positive asset you are to your job and your life. I really hope things go well for you, remember, the people you are interviewing will be just as nervous if not MORE than you!!! It will be ok. Promise yourself a long hot bath or just some special relaxation time when your day is done. Something to look forward to when you feel the anxiety coming on. I do that now, I just tell myself "you can get thru this and when you are done, you can take an hour long HOT bath and CALM down." It really does work. Remember we will be thinking of you and cheering you on!! Good Luck!!! Hugs, Erin
Hi, Elizabeth! I am sorry to hear about the distress. I know that you would not have this posistion & the duties it entails without the necessary *goods* to perform all aspects of the job. Nothing I say can convince you of your value & worth. That must come from within yourself.
I think Erin had some good ideas. Here are 2 links that might help. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhpanic&msg=18139.1&ctx=16384
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhpanic&msg=18625.1&ctx=16384
I am hoping that the interviews went easier than you thought they would.
Sheri Ann