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| Thu, 03-15-2007 - 4:10pm |
okay,
ive already posted that i have major anxiety attacks...oh just wondering, whats the difference btwn anxiety & panic attacks? anyway, my boyfriend doesnt understand why i have panic attacks at all. he thinks i make them up and gets mad at me then ignnores me everytime i mention it which is totally not what i need. i need his love & support, but b/c this is happening to my mom but 10x worse, and he doesnt like my mom he gets all mad and says im turning out like her. my attacks are ruining our relationship, i need to get help now!!
ive already posted that i have major anxiety attacks...oh just wondering, whats the difference btwn anxiety & panic attacks? anyway, my boyfriend doesnt understand why i have panic attacks at all. he thinks i make them up and gets mad at me then ignnores me everytime i mention it which is totally not what i need. i need his love & support, but b/c this is happening to my mom but 10x worse, and he doesnt like my mom he gets all mad and says im turning out like her. my attacks are ruining our relationship, i need to get help now!!

Have you seen a doctor yet about it? I was originally diagnosed with them several years ago and was given a phamplet by my doctor on ways to cope when a panic attack comes on. I also take Xanax when needed and was put on antidepressants for the general anxiety and OCD. Therapy also helps. Your therapist, if you have one, may also want your boyfriend to come in with you so that he or she can help him understand what is going on with you at that time, as well. Mine did, and it really helped my husband understand more about the OCD and why I did some of the things I did. He had been getting really frustrated before that, but after he realized what was going on in my head, he was more understanding, and appreciated that I was trying to get help for it because it was putting a strain on our relationship.
Another thing that I think helps is exercise. I had stopped exercising for a while and recently started going to the gym again. It helps me work off frustration and helps with my mental state as well.
I hope these suggestions help.
Mom_Manda,
I am sorry to hear you are going through this with your bf!
Sheri Ann
Hi! I am sorry to hear that you don't have the support you need right now. I am not sure if your bf needs educated or if he has difficulty coping with what he sees happening to you. Perhaps giving him printed material to read would help. If you see a therapist/psychiatrist/doctor, he could accompany you to a visit to get some info.
FWIW, anxiety is NOT an attack to me. It is a constant feeling that nags @ me in spells. Usually I have *what if* thinking. Racing thoughts that contain many fears & worries. A panic attack is intense & very scary where I fear dying & think I need medical help. Here's some symptoms that I have felt during an attack:
Harvard Health Publications: 13 Symptoms of Panic Attacks
A panic attack is defined by having at least four of the following symptoms:
Palpitations, heart pounding or a rapid pulse
Sweating
Trembling or shaking
Breathing problems, especially shortness of breath or a feeling that you are being smothered
A feeling of choking
Chest pain or chest discomfort
Abdominal discomfort, upset stomach or nausea
Feeling faint, dizzy, light-headed or unsteady on your feet
A feeling that things around you are unreal or that you are detached from yourself
Fear that you will lose control or "go crazy"
Fear of dying
Numbness or tingling in your arms, legs or other parts of your body
Chills or hot flushes
Between panic attacks, someone with panic disorder usually has persistent worries that a new attack will occur. These worries may cause the person to dramatically change his or her behavior or lifestyle to avoid the embarrassment of "losing control" or "going crazy" while with other people.