Not a good feeling

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Registered: 03-07-2007
Not a good feeling
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 11:58am
So I have had a few life changes in the past month and now for a really big one. The first things I have done was lost 15 pounds just by changing my food style. Then I finally began seeing a therapist for my nasty anxiety. Now the new issue. I haven't been happy at my work for the past 6 months to a year. Many changes have come and being in the children's retail business, this warm winter didn't do any favors. I haven't had a raise or a review in two years and many promises from management have flown by forgotten. So, a new opportunity for a part time weekend job came up. I went for the interview and there is a huge position available that was practically made for me. Actually they want me! I am torn, I am afraid of change and I have been nervous coming to work (which I have written off in my mind) because I feel like I am "cheating" on this place. I think mentally I have made up my mind but my daily functions are severly disrupted. I don't know what to do or how to feel or how to calm down. What is my mind thinking? Am I never to move on just cause I am afraid of change?? I need help!
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Registered: 10-27-2006
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 12:10pm
First off, congrats on the new position! Its always good to know you are wanted!!! LOL! Next, change is usually scary for most people and even worse for those of us with anxiety. It sounds like a great opportunity for you. Maybe you could sit down and make a list of the pros and cons of each job and find where you think you will be happiest. If you are happier, maybe your anxiety will be less, wouldn't that be a bonus?? And about your current job, yes, they will probably be sad to see you go, but what is the worst that will happen? They will be dispappointed yes, but they will find someone else. You need to think more about what is best for you, not about letting them down. I know how you feel because I am a people pleaser like no other and never want anyone to be mad at me or think bad of me. I have to really force myself to focus on ME sometimes. I think that is what you should do, put everyone else out of your head for this ONE decision and listen for the answer. I think you will do great!! Good Luck and Hugs, Erin
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 1:14pm

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WOW! I am so happy for you. It sounds almost like divine providence or something. Maybe good karma??? Whatever it is, focus on the positives. Here's a job that will give you the opportunity to make a fresh start. Put the unhappiness in the past. That's where it belongs anyway! Cheating? No way! If you haven't had a review or raise in 2 years, you owe your employer nada, IMHO. You deserve a good life & a good working life where you are valued & appreciated. I say GO FOR IT!


Change is inevitable. I am NOT good @ change. But, when I look back @ all the changes in my life, I'm still here! LOL Wishing you the very best of luck! Keep in touch! (((hugs))) jan

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Registered: 02-19-1998
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 1:52pm

I understand your anxiety. As the saying goes about the devil you know...

Instead of freaking out (which I know I've done before at the same time as being happy), you should give yourself a huge pat on the back that you've found this great job!

It is fine to acknowledge your fears, just don't let them rule your life. I say go ahead and take the job. It is also good to ask what is the worst that could happen? It is obvious to me you'd find another job almost immediately even if this one doesn't work out, and it doesn't sound like another job could be much worse, right?

So give yourself some credit, and what is life but risk?

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