I need some positive thoughts please....

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Registered: 01-03-2007
I need some positive thoughts please....
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 12:50pm

Hey gals! I need your support once again....my anxiety is so high right now and dh is absolutely done with me. My dh has a depression problem too...when he was married to his first wife his depression was so bad that he checked himself into the hospital twice. Well, anyway I have been dealing with his depression way before my anxiety kicked in and now he still won't seek help. He has been on a couple of different meds in the past and has always had the sexual side effect so, now he says that he has tried them all and can't take any of them. How could he possibly know that he has tried all of them? My anxiety is high...I have been battling coloitis for over a month now and today is my 8th day on Flagyl and I am still feeling like I will have some bad side effect from the meds. My left thigh (the back of it) is killing me..I know I probably only just pulled my muscle but, one of the rare side effects from Flagyl is a blood clot in the vein! YEAH, I know I have completely lost my mind. My leg is not swollen or red to the touch....that is why I feel like it is not a blood clot but, my anxiety won't let me believe it!!! I am loosing my family and everything. My dh won't even try to understand what I go through on a daily basis....he turns his back on me, calls me names and gives me this nasty attitude. I just can't take it anymore and I know the stress of our marriage is contributing to my anxiety but, I have no clue on what to do anymore. I love him and our family but, I think that maybe the kids and I would be better off without all of the stress in our lives. There is not a day that goes by that I am not crying over him. And to top it all off I had to take my 4 yr old to the doctor this morning...he has been having alot of constipation issues and nothing that we have tried....prescribed or over the counter have helped. We were just in the ER the other day for it so, anyway his doc said that if he didn't have any "blowouts" (lol) by Wednesday morning he was admitting him into the children's hospital and putting a tube in his nose and into his instetines to put meds in to loosen up his stool. His white count is up and he said that he could get a serious infection if it does not come out soon. So, now I have that to deal with too.

Sorry this is so long. I tend to ramble on sometimes. I hope everyone else is doing good!!

HUGS,
Jennifer

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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 3:34pm
Hi--I'm new here.
My name is Lynn & I also have panic disorder. I read your post & what worries me is your leg---I know our anxiety gets the better of us most of the time, but I also had a blood clot and it comes out of nowhere and feels like a pulled muscle!!! so unless you can pinpoint exactly how you did it, I would have it checked out. It's better to be safe than sorry & who cares if it's nothing? Who cares what these people think!!! When I had mine, my dr didn't think I had one-he was just being "thorough" well I'm glad he was. Please get it checked.
Good luck! Lynn
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 3:46pm
I'm sorry--I don't mean to scare you with the clot issue but really, have it checked. As far as the husband is concerned, I'm not very good with that. I'm on my 2nd marriage which is much better than the first. When I was going through my divorce though, my counselor told me that young children are very resiliant & it's better for them to be with 1 loving parent than 2 parents that are always fighting.
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 3:51pm
Now I am freaked out!! How did they know for sure it was a blood clot? How long did you have the pain and all before you got it checked?
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 5:41pm
Don't be freaked out!!! I had mine for a few days before I told my doc about it. I almost wrote what could happen but I don't want you to worry. Unless you've had it for months, I think you're pretty safe but don't let it go.
Lynn
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 5:45pm
When you tell your dr, they'll send you for an ultrasound of your leg. That's the only way to tell for sure--not painful. If they do bloodwork on you & do a d-dimer test, just know that they are NOT very accurate. (I just went through this last week because of a surgery) I had myself into a tizzy because this bloodwork said my levels were elevated & I completely lost it for 4 days until I gor the ultrasound which was fine. So don't worry--just be careful.
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 10:27pm

(((Jennifer))) I hope that you're feeling some better. I know that you have been worried about the flagyl, but in all my years of nursing & even giving it IV, I never saw anyone develop a blood clot. You must remember that all people do NOT get all side effects. Those who would get a blood clot, in most instances are inactive & unhealthy. They are not active, healthy

 

 


 



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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 10:34pm

hi jennifer,