Getting married and increased anxiety
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Getting married and increased anxiety
| Mon, 04-02-2007 - 12:07pm |
I haven't posted in here in months. I think my anxiety had been getting better. I started eating fish and taking fish oil pills. But then a few months ago I got engaged, which is completely wonderful. However, we're getting married in less than 10 weeks, and my anxiety is through the roof. But it's not just wedding-related anxiety, it's everything. In fact, the part that scared me is that my list of worries is getting bigger and bigger by the day it seems. Things that never bothered me before are starting to bother me. For example, lately, in the past few weeks and months, I feel like things around me become contaminated with germs, and no amount of cleaning them will fix it. I know it's so unreasonable, yet I can't shake this. I can't seem to have a normal day anymore, instead every say seems to bring some new worry that I become obsessed with. I'm worried that my list will get so big and out of control that I won't be able to function. I have seen multiple counselors and doctors in the past, and have taken every med that is out there. I can't take them though, because I am so sensitive and they give me insomnia, which actually makes things much worse. I am just hoping that once the stress of the wedding is over, things will get better. Is that likely to happen? I used to be so normal, I don't know what happened. I have heard that resisting the compulsion to give in to rituals can actually stop the cycle, but it seems so impossible to do. Help!

That is wonderful news about your upcoming nuptials. Best wishes:)
Undoubtedly, this is a life changing event that will cause alot of extra stress. Folks with anxiety seem to be more sensitive to this. The best way for me to handle stress, may not be the best for you. Working on what will help is part of learning to cope with anxiety. I do know that the basics of eating well, plenty of exercise & getting enough sleep keeps us in better form to face our changes.
As for how to handle obssessive thinking, I can tell you that I personally feel better when I have control of things. I make lists & organize every last detail. Are you into that? I have read that the more one tries to resist the rituals that it causes more anxiety. I am NOT sure what is the real answer. Our obssessions & compulsions do need addressed. Perhaps your *t* can help?
You seem to be aware of what is troubling you. Cut yourself some slack. Be kinder to yourself during this intense time. You will get through this & will move past this anxiety. It never lasts forever. Keep in touch. GL! (((hugs))) jan