So Fed Up-Anxiety 10 on Scale of 1-10
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So Fed Up-Anxiety 10 on Scale of 1-10
| Sat, 04-07-2007 - 8:51pm |
I am at my wits end and just do not know what to do. My therapy is going well and since switching back to Effexor, for the most part, it is going well, also. However, I am at my wits end regarding some teenagers in my apartment complex and have no idea what to do as my apartment management, nor the courtesy officer or city police will do anything. There is a group of teenagers that has moved into my apartment complex that are constantly harrassing me, saying things like, "Show your breasts," etc., when I am outside. I told my husband about it and he has spoken with them and told them to cut it out (we were hoping this would stop it since I am 32 but look really young, and they may have thought that I was a teenager). Well, on top of all of this, they use this rod looking thing that is bulky and do all of these skateboarding jumps off of it around the cars and people in our building. My husband was backing up one night and they were doing this and he almost ended up hitting both the skateboard and the kid in mid-air that was doing the flip since it was dark and he couldn't see them. He got out of the car at that point and spoke with them again about how dangerous this was.
We have spoken with management at my apartment complex three times and were told the second time that the new manager would go out there with the courtesy officer to speak with them. I wanted to go outside to make sure that they were not lying since the employee the day before that we reported it to was so callous about it (not to mention that they are not the brightest people-one month they literally washed my rent check in a washing machine and I had to write another), but my husband said to just trust them. So I did. My mistake.
Today they were at it again. When my husband was backing up to pick me up to go get our other car which was being serviced, they deliberately put the rod thing out behind his car to start doing the tricks again. I got fed up and asked him if he wanted to call the police or if he wanted me to. He called a police officer that we are good friends with to see if he was working, and I went to the office to complain yet again. Meanwhile, the one kid turns to the other one and says that he does not need to be shy around me and they start doing flips right behind me while I am walking (to the point that my dog or I could've been hit by their skateboard). I told the manager and the officer that I had had it up to here, that I was being harrassed by these people, that I knew the car that they were associated with since the office has the tag numbers of all of the cars, and that somebody needed to do something before they hurt someone or got hit. Basically, the manager and the police said that there was nothing they can do. The town that we unfortunately moved to is completely screwed up and the juvenile court and police officers don't get along, so I am thinking this is part of the problem. They would not allow me to file a report on these kids. These kids have also, in the past, been leaning on my car and moved a magnet that I had on it for spaying and neutering animals just to be punks. I told the manager and police officer that if anything happened to me, not only would I be going after the juveniles in court, but also them since this was the third time I had spoken with them about it and no one had done anything. My husband and I then went to the Cumming Police Department, yet, we were still told that we could not make a report. If someone is harrassing you when you are just outside walking your dog and making remarks about your breasts, just because they are under 18, why is it not harrassment. I hate to see what they are like when they are adults if they are this disrespectful now, especially after knowing I am a married adult. Additionally, the police department first asked me who the security officer was after I told them the name of the apartment complex, then proceed to tell me that he is speaking with them now. Yeah, right, I wasn't born yesterday. If you don't know who he is, how can you possibly tell me that you know that he is speaking with them now. I have taken a Xanax but I still am just so on edge and wound up.
On Monday, I plan to speak with the new leasing manager (the one who told my husband that she and the security officer had spoken with the teenagers on Thursday) and show her the parts of my lease that would cover this situation that I have highlighted and get the corporate office number and address so that I can right them and send them a highlighted copy as well. I have never had such problems in any complex that I lived in, nor been harrassed to this extent. Any suggestions to help me handle this in the meantime as well as the anxiety would be appreciated.
Sorry such a long post, but I am just so fed up and literally thought I was going to pass out earlier AFTER taking a Xanax from a panic attack. It's very rare that I have them anymore and usually a Xanax helps relieve them or prevent them if I take it when I feel one coming on.
Thanks for listening.
We have spoken with management at my apartment complex three times and were told the second time that the new manager would go out there with the courtesy officer to speak with them. I wanted to go outside to make sure that they were not lying since the employee the day before that we reported it to was so callous about it (not to mention that they are not the brightest people-one month they literally washed my rent check in a washing machine and I had to write another), but my husband said to just trust them. So I did. My mistake.
Today they were at it again. When my husband was backing up to pick me up to go get our other car which was being serviced, they deliberately put the rod thing out behind his car to start doing the tricks again. I got fed up and asked him if he wanted to call the police or if he wanted me to. He called a police officer that we are good friends with to see if he was working, and I went to the office to complain yet again. Meanwhile, the one kid turns to the other one and says that he does not need to be shy around me and they start doing flips right behind me while I am walking (to the point that my dog or I could've been hit by their skateboard). I told the manager and the officer that I had had it up to here, that I was being harrassed by these people, that I knew the car that they were associated with since the office has the tag numbers of all of the cars, and that somebody needed to do something before they hurt someone or got hit. Basically, the manager and the police said that there was nothing they can do. The town that we unfortunately moved to is completely screwed up and the juvenile court and police officers don't get along, so I am thinking this is part of the problem. They would not allow me to file a report on these kids. These kids have also, in the past, been leaning on my car and moved a magnet that I had on it for spaying and neutering animals just to be punks. I told the manager and police officer that if anything happened to me, not only would I be going after the juveniles in court, but also them since this was the third time I had spoken with them about it and no one had done anything. My husband and I then went to the Cumming Police Department, yet, we were still told that we could not make a report. If someone is harrassing you when you are just outside walking your dog and making remarks about your breasts, just because they are under 18, why is it not harrassment. I hate to see what they are like when they are adults if they are this disrespectful now, especially after knowing I am a married adult. Additionally, the police department first asked me who the security officer was after I told them the name of the apartment complex, then proceed to tell me that he is speaking with them now. Yeah, right, I wasn't born yesterday. If you don't know who he is, how can you possibly tell me that you know that he is speaking with them now. I have taken a Xanax but I still am just so on edge and wound up.
On Monday, I plan to speak with the new leasing manager (the one who told my husband that she and the security officer had spoken with the teenagers on Thursday) and show her the parts of my lease that would cover this situation that I have highlighted and get the corporate office number and address so that I can right them and send them a highlighted copy as well. I have never had such problems in any complex that I lived in, nor been harrassed to this extent. Any suggestions to help me handle this in the meantime as well as the anxiety would be appreciated.
Sorry such a long post, but I am just so fed up and literally thought I was going to pass out earlier AFTER taking a Xanax from a panic attack. It's very rare that I have them anymore and usually a Xanax helps relieve them or prevent them if I take it when I feel one coming on.
Thanks for listening.

I am sorry to hear about this situation. It must be very upsetting. There are no easy answers here. I certainly have no solutions. It seems more & more indicative of the times we live in. Noone does their jobs & for all intents & purposes, noone cares.
Our PD is across from McDonald's. On any given night you can drive into that parking lot & make an attempt to get to the drive thru window. There are masses of kids just loitering. It's a wonder none have been hit because you have to maneuver carefully & they apparently own the street. If you have the windows down, the language is unbelieveable. They jeer & leer @ you. I never go there anymore.
I understand that this is your home turf. That you're paying to live there & have a lease that affords you some protection. Confrontation hasn't helped you to feel better, nor them to change their behavior. Perhaps you could see an attorney for advice.
I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully you can find a happy medium here. (((hugs))) jan