Hi Grippy2005, I'm sorry to read you've been
Hi grippy, I agree with cmamyd that putting your attention on things outside of yourself can help. It also helps me to just keep going no matter what, even if I'm so down that I don't feel like it. I don't have to be fast, but just keeping moving seems to help. On a super bad day, I might spend an hour slowly folding a basket of laundry that on a good day I'd do in 10 minutes- but progressing forward, no matter how slowly, can sometimes keep your overall forward momentum going.
Another thing that has helped me to not dwell so much on all the bad is learning about, and trying to practice, radical acceptance. Radical acceptance is learning to accept things as they are in such a way that you can be at peace with the world around you. It doesn't mean you are passive or a victim, it just means that you learn to accept reality for what it is-- it is much like that saying about changing the things you can, accepting the things you can't change, and knowing the difference.
I was just doing a little reading on RA last night and the author/psychologist was pointing out that if you are upset about something and can't seem to move beyond it, it is very likely an inability to accept a reality that is beyond your control-- that somehow the human brain will try again and again to find a way to rearrange the facts so we can feel better about a situation. This is something I am dealing with at the moment, with an uncomfortable situation that I have no control over and yet am getting stuck on it again and again. I am so stressed out about this thing, and yet it is beyond my control. I keep telling my brain to stop working overtime trying to make me feel better about something that "just is" in a way that I don't like.
Hope today was a good day for you. (((HUGS)))
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I think you make an excellent point about acceptance. Looking back at the times when I've had particularly bad anxiety, I can see that difficulty accepting the way things are has played a significant role. It's something I have to work on too. I think it's tied into my need to be in control at all times. I have noticed that many anxiety sufferers have control issues. For me, it's always a weird paradox, because I sometimes wish that someone else could step in and make the big decisions and shoulder some of the responsibility, but at the same time, I am compulsive about being in control and would have difficulty letting someone else take on that role.
Anyway, Gippy, I hope you start feeling better soon.