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|Sun, 07-04-2010 - 1:51pm|
To start off, I am about to turn 28 years old. I have been divorced for almost a year and there were several big reasons that led to my divorce. One, my ex husband was mad because I got a job and would no longer be at home all day to tend to his every need. And two, well, he left me for my cousin. Which I found out that they had been secretly talking and seeing each other since before he and I were even married.
Anyway, why i'm here is my current boyfriend feels that I might have anxiety and I honestly have no idea what that is or what it even means for me. The reason he believes I might have anxiety is that since my ex husband left me I have developed this overwhelming fear that my current, or any other boyfriend I might have, might do the same. I try to fight these feelings, but it doesn't work. He feels that I have begun to smother him, without me knowing i'm doing it or why. Plus he told me that he feels that he has to tell me wherever he is going all the time, and that if he doesn't, it makes me upset. Which that's honestly not true, because I know he has his own life and I don't have to have him around 24/7.
Then comes his family. Recently, we had been living in Oklahoma and then decided to move to Oregon where he was originally from. I was happy about it because it was going to give me a chance to get to know his family. However, since we've been here, he's been going off with his sister just to talk or hang out while I have to stay at the house by myself. Then, when we're supposed to be spending time together, he always gets up just to go see what everyone else is doing and leaving me by myself. I feel that this, and on top of everything else with dealing with my ex husband, has maybe caused me to become depressed. I am going to go see a doctor this week. I guess i'm just looking for advice really. I have never dealt with anything like this before and I don't know what to do.