i'm back, kind of....

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i'm back, kind of....
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Sun, 08-08-2010 - 10:21pm

hey all!


janis, glad to see your still here! where's sheri ann?

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 1:07pm

{{{ hugs }}}}

Your body goes through sooo much during these first few weeks of pregnancy.

Did you already get an HGC? How do you know your hormones are low. Seems to me you need to have a medical concern to get an HGC this early. Or do you work with a specialist? I guess then they check on you early?

Can you talk to your OB about taking a high potency B-complex? I was just reading last night how much this can help with anxiety & the B6 helps with hormonal stress. It was described as high potency meaning at least 50mg of B1, B2, B3 & B6. I guess this could be found in a high-potency multi-vitamin, which you may need to make sure you're getting high folic acid as well.

I am a strong believer in the B vitamins in aiding anxiety. I believe it is what has calmed me down.

Another great supplement to take is omega-3. This helps with depression, memory, focus & improved thinking. As an added bonus it may help support the growth of your babies eyes, brain and heart.

Becoming pregnant, planned or not, is stressful! It will change everything about your life. It is okay to feel this stress, every woman does. It's okay to feel the joy as well - yes this wee one was a surprise, but it sounds to me like s/he is not unwanted. The part of you that wonders if a miscarriage would be okay may be for 2 reasons, to make it not as hard if a miscarriage does happen and it's hard to let go of the life you already have. Again, natural, and should not feel guilty.

Congrats.




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng



"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 4:28pm
(((Heather))) Nice to see you:) Sheri Ann left some time ago. She got her anxiety under control & returned to nursing full time. She's doing well & the last I heard still says the lexapro gave her her life back!
You do have a lot on your plate. I can certainly see where the anxiety is coming from. Congrats on the pregnancy! I have every hope that you will carry this baby to term & the anxiety will not be a problem this time. I am praying for that, Heather! As you know, my anxiety reared it's ugly head after my deliveries): I know you really struggled last time. Noone wants that sort of struggle for you & hopefully being pro-active will help. Work closely w/your doctors. That is my best advice. As for *what ifs* let's not get ahead of ourselves. The good news is that you have many coping skills to fall back on *if* you need them. You have a lot of strength & courage too. After having anxiety @ work, you were able to look fear in the eye & return to your job. You're to be commended for that!
How does your hubby & the boys feel about a new baby? Are they excited? How's your home life? The last I recall you were looking for a home. How did that work out?
Please keep in touch & let us know how things go. GL & GBU! jan
 

 


 



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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 6:40pm

yeah, i do already have my hcg's due to multiple miscarriages...this is my 7th pregnancy....i've had 4 miscarriages, and 2 living children...with both of them i started preterm labor around 20weeks preggo, my first son was born around 33 weeks, and my second (due to practicly living in the hospital for 20 weeks) was born full term...


so...


thats why i know my levels already...its due to a VERY turbilant pregnancy history...


at 4 weeks LMP my hcg was 14...then 14 again the next day...then barely doubled 2 days later to 29....


sigh...


STRESS!

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 6:48pm

hey janis!


we bought our home 2.5 years ago...and financially its been a really tough two years.

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 10:31pm

DARN IT!

I just hoped you were not using pg tests for your level count, I remember some women doing that on the trying to conceive after miscarriage board.

The HCGs are a blessing & a curse!
Blessing when you see them working the way you want and a curse when they scare you to death. Just an FYI, my numbers were really low and not doubling & I ended up having an extremely healthy baby. In the state I'm from you're referred to a specialist after 5 miscarriages. My poor sister had about 7 miscarriages, but now she has 6 live, healthy children.

The anxiety is very understandable. Is the hospital stay the reason for losing your job last time? Or was it due to the anxiety?

I wish I had some consoling words, but I cannot find any.

There is chair yoga if you would like to find an exercise that does not stress your body and will also supply a meditative state. Most youtube videos will probably show seniors doing the exercises, but it is a very gentle way to strengthen your body for your upcoming event & calm your mind/spirit.




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng



"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Wed, 08-11-2010 - 1:15pm

i'm using the boards as my outlet, as I'm not yet comfortable talking to my family and friends about what is going on right now...

I'm glad that you find comfort in posting your feelings here. We want & hope for the best for you, Heather. Don't be a stranger. GL & GBU! (((hugs))) jan