DS overcoming irrational fears !
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|Tue, 08-24-2010 - 2:18pm|
My 8 yo suffers from anxiety :(
He fears getting hurt, choking & dying. He's had dreams of drowning.
But this month something has happened with him & these fears seem to be melting away. I just need a place to celebrate. It's been a long journey with him.
First tried an occupational therapist. She was basically stealing our money so after 3 months I took him out & put him into talk/play therapy. At the initial consult he saw dad has mental illnesses & locked onto ADHD and decided, before talking to my DS & knowing we were there for anxiety, he must have ADHD. Ummm, anxiety may appear to be ADHD, but it's not ADHD. So after 3 months of no diagnosis & not a lot of help I took him out & decided to do what I could for him on my own.
The first week of August he started to ride his bike. He even rode his bike into blackberry bushes & came out scraped & cut from head to toe. Normally, that would be it for him, but he did quit for a couple of hours and then went right back out & drove down the same path to teach the bushes he was the winner!
He tried new foods at a restaurant. Normally he won't because he will sometimes start to gag & will even spit up a bit of food when he gets too scared of a new food. We didn't even ask him to try the food! Every single dish that came out he tried at least one bite! Happy Birthday Dad !!!
Then he got his finger slammed in the car door. It was a bad gash. He actually settled down quite well for an 8 year old who's really never seen his own blood (except from bloody noses which usually put him into hysterics) and there was a great deal of blood. He's been so grown up about it.
Water has been horrible with my son. Even the feeling of his own tears & running nose will put him into histerics. Won't go anywhere near anything that would get his face wet. But I decided last October he was going to learn how to swim enough to be slightly safe around water. There have been times we both felt like I was punishing him. Every other physical class he's been in he's quit, but I told him he's not going to quit swim & we have continued on, not missing a single lesson for nearly a whole year.
On August 1st he was still unable to put his face into the water without sheer panic settling in.
He is now swimming 1/2 the width of the pool on his own! His instructor is moving him up to the next level.
What a month August 2010 has been for my son. I see now it only take a little confidence to positively push a person in so many directions.
Keep celebrating your small successes, as each one builds the path for the next !!!
Thanks for letting me share :)
"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."
~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng