Post tax season update

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Post tax season update
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:42pm

Hi all,

I'm back after a lot of long days with tax season!!! Soooo glad its over and done with. My friends are now remembering what I look like and what my voice sounds like. Ha!

Anyhow, I'm still "broken up" with my long time love. We still talk and "date" but its really just starting to wear me down. I know I can't move on with him still in my life but I just don't want to give up hope yet. The hopeless romantic in me still thinks he will show up at my door with tulips and a ring... and then I wake up!!!!!

All of my friends are trying to convice me that dating will make me feel better. I've gone out with one guy who was just too clingy. Called me three times in two days when I told him I would be busy and never gave me a chance to call back. That was the end of him. (He is still calling btw) I gave my number to an old co-worker that I ran into... haven't heard from him... but did hear through the grape vine that hes working a big case in the city (San Francisco). Hes a FBI agent. And... a friend of a friend got my number from her and now won't stop calling even though I have dodged everyone of his attempts to ask me out. And this Friday I have a coffee date with someone who I've thought was super nice on the eyes for about a year. Of course I wasn't single and he works for a client so I'm torn with the whole moral issuse of dating a person who works for a client. But coffee won't hurt right?

So my point in all of this is that every time I start talking to a new guy I just start to realize what Patrick and I have (or had). That just brings me back to the whole not wanting to let go. "Can you get to your future if your past is present?" a quote from my favorite show Sex and the City. So true...

As far of my RA is going. Not doing great. I haven't taken my MTX in about a month. Don't really have a reason other than I hate giving up one day in my week that I know I will feel like crap. I know I need it. I know I should take it tonight. I guess with tax season I didn't have any days I could just lay around. No excuse now. My hands and hips are begging me... please take your MTX!!!! Ok... ok... I will. Tonight.

Thats all for me for now. If you have made it this far. Thanks for sticking with me and listening to me whine about ALL the boys I have falling at my feet. My friends have stopped listening to me complain about it.... wonder why? AHAHAHAHA!!!!!

Smiles, Jen







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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 2:40pm

Jen, you sound so much like my dd with your "Patrick" situation. She had a "Ken" that she was so in love with and it went on for 10 years. Dd started counseling, but Ken would not go. She finally wised up and told him bye bye, that was 2 years ago. Then her jaw problems started. She has dated a little, some real freaks that were clingy and kept calling constantly all day. She doesn't like that sort of person, either! There was one guy she really liked. He was a Sacramento county sheriff. I thought this was the one, but he was familiar with Fibromyaglia. His aunt has it and one of his friend's marriages ended in divorce, because the husband couldn't handle the FM issues. So, he broke up with her, because he wanted to lead an active outdoor life and said he could not handle the FM.

Anyway, dd had a massage recently from a holistic massuese (sp?), actually the one I go to. She zeroed in on the past relationship immediately and told Donna she had to let that part of her life out to make room for someone new. Just something to think about. :o)

Now get your bum bum (as Julia says) back on the MTX! I know you knew that was coming!! This unsettled part of your life could be affecting the RA. Did I mention counseling? ;o) Maybe talking with a priest or your pastor would help. You know you can whine here and I am praying that you feel better.

Hugs,
Vicki

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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 2:51pm

Awwwww, Jen....well, I'm happy for you that tax season is over (for this year).

Molly

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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 11:44pm
Hi Jen!!!!
Its always good to hear from you. I wish you were feeling better.
Jen are you familiar with Dr. Phil? If so you will understand this comment "How is that working for you"? LOL! Seriously Jen, stress is not good for you and therefore in my opinion Patrick is not good for you. Please don't waste your life waiting on him. Go out and date and let go and have fun. Maybe Patrick is the one for you but it is obvious he is not ready to settle down so until he is ready if he ever is I say you should "Live it up". Life is to short to wait on others. You are a beautiful, kind, giving and special woman and you deserve the best.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Love, Claudia
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:10pm

Oh Vicki you are just great!!! Forever the mom.

Patrick and I were out with my friends on Monday night (he never usually comes out with me) and a friend of mine was introducing him. Well, she didn't know what to call him!!! Then she was saying she was happy that another girlfriend of ours was single and I said wait I'm single too!!! She looked and me and said you aren't single, you're unclassifiable!!!

I know I need to make a decision about my situation sooner or later. I have been praying every night for guidance. There just never seems to be a good time. I won’t pass up a date if I’m asked out but I’m not going to actively look for guys either.

I guess I can just say that with every other aspect in my life right now I’m perfectly happy. I love my job, I love where I live, I’m finally out of debt and my health is pretty well manageable. I’m not going to let Patrick interfere with my happiness. And that’s that!!!

Thank you Vicki, I really do value what you say and appreciate it.

Smiles, Jen







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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:12pm

Molly,

That was the most politically correct response I've ever read from you!!!!

I didn’t do my shot MTX last night…. But tonight when I so my Humira shot I’ll do the MTX. I promise!!!

Now what about you? Did you ever start MTX?

Smiles, Jen







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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:15pm

Hey Claudia,

Hmmm... don't watch Dr Phil. But I think I get the hint. I would love to walk away from him and go out and have a great time but 5 years is so hard to let go of.

Trust me, I'm praying every night and when the time is right I know I'll be able to make the right decision. I'm just not there quite yet...

Smiles, Jen







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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 4:58pm

Politically correct???

Molly

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 8:59pm

Donna referred to Ken as "Mr. Whatever"!!!! LOL

Hugs, Vicki

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 10:34pm
Awe {{{{Jen}}}} I'm sorry about your "loss".
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:04pm
Jen, after I posted to you last night I thought wow that was mean and I felt really bad. But did you see Oprah today? I hope you did because it would help you with your decision on Patrick. The guy that wrote the book "he's just not that into you" was on. Several ladies asked him questions about their relationships. One of the relationships reminded me of you and Patricks. It was on and off for 5 years. Sorry but he basically said to her what I said to you. Maybe you can go to her website and read about todays show. I really think it would be of great help to you.
Love and Hugs
Claudia

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