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|Fri, 06-13-2003 - 12:42pm|
If I had an ounce of self-esteem I would be happy. To make a long story short--my bf or exbf has moved in with me. He got evicted and asked and being the co-dependent that I am I said yes. Meanwhile I haven't assumed that we were back together although we have had sex twice. Anyway, I am not his CONCUBINE!!!! He tells me let the chips fall where they may WTF is that. I told him he should sleep in my other room. "No I want to sleep with you". OH! but we aren't together. What am I supposed to think?....I bought this on myself. It has only been two days that he has been there. We only slept together in the same bed once. He works at night and I work during the day; so when he comes home I am leaving, except for the weekend. This will be our first weekend together, so I do not know how that will go. I will tell him how I feel. I am really over him (my actions may not say so...but I am) If he will just say "no we are not together or yes let's try again then I will be fine" But he gives me these philosophical answers. I would still let him stay, he'll just have to sleep in the other room. I need help everyone on how to talk to him. He doesn't listen to me, he hears me. I don't know how to be firm, he doesn't take me seriously. I know I messed up when we slept together, but that was different. It would have been easy for me to "cut it off", we were not living together, I could have just not come by his place, or refused to take his calls. (By the way..I was strong...I did not call him...he called me after not hearing from me in two weeks---I wonder if he did that because he knew he was being evicted and knew what a sap I was...and that I would say yes )But since we are "living" together it will be a little more difficult. Any suggestions besides telling him to leave. Other than my feelings...everything was great...we were laughing together and being friendly. I just don't want to be used or taken advantage of again. I know he only does what I let him...well I am trying to not "let" him. I need strength and esteem and anything else that will make me stop feeling like this. Thanks for listening.