More advice on BF (long, sorry)
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|Mon, 06-30-2003 - 11:29am|
My BF decided to work 7 hours on Saturday. Saturday night we had a b-day party to go to. (Of course I HAD to pay exactly MY PART of the bill at the restaurant... even though BF is working 20 hours OT a week & making lots of cash....SIGH!)
On to Sunday. I had a bridal shower from noon - 3pm. Immediately he just HAS to make plans to hang out with his friend John). All I asked was that this guy NOT be hanging out at our house when I got home, because I wanted to change & relax & watch TV.
What happens? I'm leaving the bridal shower & have a voice mail from my BF, saying "oh we are going bike riding - and then we are having a BBQ at our place - so John will be over when you get home. Just to let you know". I mean - what the heck? Not even an "I'm sorry but....." Don't my feelings matter?
I get home & they're there - the TV is blasting, etc. Then my BF informs me that they are going out for the night too. Basically - he didn't really spend any time with me this past weekend. But he spent 10 hours with John. He and John talk every day, or every other day on the phone. And see each other a lot.
Maybe I'm a little jealous ? Maybe I just think it's an odd relationship?? Like - they are teenagers & that bothers me ? But I also feel he doesn't take my feelings into consideration about anything, ever. And geez - could he have maybe squeezed in an hour of alone time for me this weekend????
This John guy is a loser. He is 35 years old, DEEEEEEP in debt, lives in his parent's basement. He meets girls in Chat Rooms & has sex with different ones all the time (oh, and he emails my BF pics of these girls in various stages of undress). He's very immature. He hasn't had a girlfriend in about 8 years. It's all of these things combined that make him ICKY to me. But - my BF loves him & will defend him to the end. Honestly if I told my BF how I really feel, he would freak out & be so angry. This guy has been my BF's best friend since they were 15. And - my BF's ONLY friend. He has cultivated NO new friendships since High School.
Oh geeeez, I'm sorry this got so long. I'm just really spending a lot of time thinking everything through with my BF, and I get INVALUABLE wisdom from you ladies here.
Anyway - if you made it through this long post - I thank you very much.
If I'm just being a silly little girl w/jealousy issues, feel free to say so, LOL!!!