Emotionally beat up
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|Fri, 07-25-2003 - 10:07pm|
Today is our 12th wedding anniversary. DH has to work so we will celebrate tomorrow. Anyway, I took the opportunity this morning to do something different. Instead of getting anniversary cards from friends and family (lol, yeah right). I sat down and composed a poem to both of our families expressing how we appreciate all of the support they have shown us in the past 12 years and we just wanted to say thank you and we love you. This was done with honest feelings and intentions. It was not even remotely sarcastic. It was what it was. I did this via e-mail.
My folks called this evening to tell me that they were sorry they forgot to send us a card or call. And that they were sorry that I had to send them a reminder...??? I laughed and said, it was no reminder it was a thank you. They seemed confused, but accepted my explanation. LOL Out of about 12 thank you's they were the only ones that reacted in this manner.
My older sister is celebrating her 25th anniversary tomorrow night as well, and my parents will be attending the party. She and I do not have anything in common other than our parents, so we do not associate. There is no animosity towards her, just don't like her, plus boredom and different values. My father was quite upset that we were not attending, yet he finds it completely acceptable for my male cousins to have the same relationship, even finds it humorous. His remarks to me were.."why don't you two go and during all of the celebrations you can sit there quietly knowing it is your anniversary too? That way you two can drive us home since it will be dark and I don't see very well in the dark (he's 78)". I couldn't believe he said that, yet I was not surprised. I told my husband yeah that's the way it has always been.....I am to sit quietly and not take any attention away from my sister.
So tonight they topped it off.....they are taking a couple of friends with them to the party because my sister said it was alright because she knew they wanted to show her new house to some of their friends..... They have never brought anyone to my house. I thought OMG, that's something people do in high school when they want to impress their friends.
It's no wonder I am posting in a self-esteem support board. If I had come out of that family raising with any self-esteem it would have been a miracle!! I have two children and cannot imagine being so insensitive to their feelings. Am I the only one that is still being emotionally beat up by my parents into adulthood??