I just don't get this!
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|Fri, 07-25-2003 - 11:01pm|
I have a friend at work who I've been buying Mary Kay from and she came over to my house and gave me and a friend a free facial. It was the best day and she is just PERFECT for this kind of work....very generous, patient, excellent customer service skills, and knowledgeable. Well, a month ago she told me she was having personal problems and was closing her business and would no longer sell Mary Kay. I was disappointed yet concerned about what was going on with her. I didn't pry and thought if she needed someone to confide in she'd come to me. In the meantime, I've sent her cards and I always have a kind word to say to her when I see her.
Today she told me.......she's getting a divorce, but that's not all of it. Her husband of only 10 months came home one day and told her he didn't want to be married anymore. She said she didn't see this coming at all. She thought things were fine. They went to counseling and he admitted during one of the sessions that he never really loved her and he couldn't stay married. I was probably as devastated by the news as she was. She is SUCH a lovely person! How could he do this? I tried my best to offer her support and encouragement but I know my words weren't much consolation. I did tell her I could empathize because it happened to me too. My college sweetheart of 7 yrs told me he didn't want to be married after 6 months!! So, I was there once and I know how devastating it is. Now, she has to vacate the home they bought together in 5 weeks. He's already gone. Luckily, she was able to get herself together and purchase a new home....I was happy to hear that.
My question is......why do men do this? Is it that they're doing what's expected of them? Are men not in touch with their feelings? Don't they realize how damaging this is? Has anyone else gone through this? If there are any men reading this...can you shed some light on this situation and maybe explain how a man can live a lie and take a woman on such a roller coaster ride.