Birthday Bummer - call me a whiner
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|Mon, 10-06-2003 - 8:40am|
Last week it was my birthday so Saturday night I went to dinner with 3 girlfriends and one of their husbands. My best friend picked me up at my condo and gave me some decorative Halloween items. They were cute but two of them are basically useless because even thought they look like something you put a candle in and light so that the glow emits from the cut-outs the paint is flamable so, what's the point of it? That's another subject. I appreciated the gifts and we went off to dinner.
We met our friends at the restaurant and had a nice dinner. Usually, someone steps away from the table that tells the waiter we have a birthday, please put a candle on whatever dessert we order so that we can sing happy birthday. No one did that. Then, the other two girls arrived without any presents or cards. Okay, maybe they were really busy during the week and will give me something another week. That does happen. But when the bill came it was divided evenly 5 ways. Now here's where I will start to whine.
It's a tradition among my friends that the birthdya girl/guy doesn't pay for their dinner. Somehow though, this tradition was forgotten. How does this happen? As I said, in the big scheme of things (the war in Iraq, homelessness and hunger in America), this is a trivial matter but c'mon, our birthdays only happen once a year. It felt like everyone forgot other than my friend who game me the Halloween items.
I'm really going to try and let this go but next year when it's their birthdays I can't promise I'm going do my usual and go out of my way for them. I mean, do you think they even realized they included me in the bill? I handed my money and no one said, 'Oh, wait a minute, you weren't suppose to pay anything'. Do you think they wondered why the bill was so reasonable? Thank goodness I threw in an extra $20 in my wallet that night or I would have had to admit I didn't have enough on me.
Okay, I'll stop whining now. Go ahead and let me have it. How childish am I being over this matter. Is there a proper or mature way to let them know this is bothering me?