constantly blaming myself

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Registered: 09-28-2003
constantly blaming myself
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 4:53pm
I constantly blame myself for everything.. big or small. I feel like I should have done something differently. It's like I'm try to create perfectness. I just can't stop blaming myself. I to switch my thought pattern and tell myself not to be so hard on myself but that is not working at all.

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Registered: 06-05-2008
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 6:01pm

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Tue, 05-19-2009 - 12:08am
Do you think it's possible to be perfect, or that beating yourself up after the fact is the road that will get you there? What sort of things do you beat yourself up about and what do you wish you could do instead? How do you feel when you beat yourself up about something you did? And was this a pattern for you in childhood or did your parents do this too?

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