Accepting and loving me
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|Fri, 05-29-2009 - 6:39pm|
I am single, widowed for 8 years. I do have one grown, married child and two children in their late teens and one beautiful grandbaby.
I would love to start dating again. I have soooo many questions and if there were a class I would definitely sign up for it! With having so many questions I think I should start with what is probably the biggest concern. Its my own body image.
I don't mean to seem braggy but back in the day I was quite the hotty pototty. Obviously I am much older now and a good 40 lbs heavier. I'm trying to keep this short but I am working on the weight and have shed quite a few pounds. I've also accomplished some pretty big goals including yesterday I jogged the entire length of our local county park and back! I was so proud of myself.
Yet, I cannot get beyond this bad self image. I would say on a scale of 1-10 (1 being the lowest and 10 the best) my self image is about a 5 or 6 depending on my mood.
I just keep having negative self dialogue when I start really thinking about dating. It usually goes something like this: "ew, my body is so flabby and gross, what man is going to be attracted to me now?"
I already know that I am not going to be successful in the dating world if I do not get over this quick. Please give me some advice as to how to change my self image and find the beautiful qualities I still possess.