Judging and judgements...

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Judging and judgements...
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Sun, 05-31-2009 - 4:11pm

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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 12:39pm

I think the point is that some judgements should be kept to one's self because they might be hurful when expressed, and they MIGHT be erroneous based in insufficient data.

True, all things are judgements to some extent as we can't all know how someone else sees the green grass or the blue sky but we have enough Physical data to know that the grass IS green and the sky is blue (at least int eh scientific sense)... But calling someone an idiot is hurtful and while you don't have to lie about it, telling them (or someone else) your opinion of them which is based purely on an impression (or a reflection of your own beliefs --- which, by the way, that idiot may find idiotic in return) seems to me to be why so many people have a problem with self-esteem.

IF someone tells you you are an idiot, and you can ignore it, I applaud you for your strength of character. But a lot of people can be crippled by such a statement to their face, especially if repeated over and over.

SO I think one needs to be careful what one DOES with their "judgements"



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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 2:41pm

  • SO I think one needs to be careful what one DOES with their "judgements"

Exactly!!

Molly

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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 4:24pm

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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 6:04pm

Very interesting thread ekatie23.

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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 7:17pm

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Edited 6/1/2009 7:33 pm ET by ekatie23
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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 10:34pm

I'm seeing two different uses of the verb 'to judge' that are not interchangeable.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 10:43pm

There's a huge difference between being observant, being open and direct, and how one delivers one's take of reality, and being judgmental. Judging and being judgmental are two completely different things.

























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Tue, 06-02-2009 - 11:24pm