people pleaser

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Registered: 08-06-2006
people pleaser
Tue, 06-02-2009 - 12:58pm
My family and friends has always been incredibly important to me. Next to my religious beliefs, those are the ones I value tremendously.
I've often been described as fun and compassionate, but private, too.
Since I value the opinions of my loved ones, I often seek their advice and opinions regarding my persona and behavior.
Since I indulge in activities that aren't necessarily approved of by my loved ones, I am sometimes given advice that goes against my interior.
I, however, am a people pleaser.
I am learning that trying to alter my person is not only causing me to be a bit resentful, it's tiring! : )
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Registered: 05-06-2007
Tue, 06-02-2009 - 4:38pm

Can you elaborate on how your attempts to alter your persona is tiring and causing resentment?