I feel like I'm getting "pushed out"
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|Mon, 07-27-2009 - 12:31pm|
I have an evil, toxic, conniving boss- she's an older woman (in her 50s) who's not attractive, has a residing hairline, bad teeth, loud mouth and the "I know it all" attitude. She's arrogant, snarky, makes rude comments but I suspect that attitude has been reserved for only certain people and I've found myself to be in that category. Why? I think it's because she's jealous of my type: I am 20+ years younger, have a husband/baby/house, etc. She's a single mother whose boyfriend left her for another woman. This is my rationale but I don't even know if I'm on the right track, it's just an easy assumption because I can't think of anything else.
My boss only has 1 boss above her and it happens to be a man who is easily manipulated.It also happens to be the owner of the company! She's constantly in his ear, giving him "advice" on how to run his own company, what perception to have of his employees, basically how to think. I think this woman has found an ideal situation for herself- she's managed to secure her job by convincing her boss to give her ultimate control over everyone and everything.
Since there are just a handful of us in this company, her competition is not only very small but also almost non-existent. We
re all in sales so things are competitive to say the least. Yet, everyone except for me seems to accept the fact that she's a tyrant and they deal with her in their own way. I, on the other hand, loathe her so much, I am beside myself. And I am lost because I have no idea how to handle myself. I wrote a separate post about it before, this time let me give you a little more detail.
So here's a particular situation:
- my boss started bad mouthing me to my clients, a couple of them have reported it back to me
She does it in the most perfidious way: goes to their place of business, asks how things are going with me as their rep and if they have the slighest negative thing to say, such as "yes, we had a billing issue before but it was straightened out already", she jumps in and tells them that she'll be taking over the account for me, because she's the boss, she can do that
Then she tells me that my client requested that she handled them instead. LIE! Of course, I learn the truth when I ask the client what happened.
I strongly believe that she does this to discredit me and to make me quit because I am doing so much better than her at my job. This is most likely coming from a place of sheer insecurity about her own job skills/selling abilities. Knowing or even guessing her reasoning is still not helping me as I am very frustrated with my current situation. I kind of like my job or at least I have not been planning on getting a new one until the economy improves, I've been really focused on building my resume with this company because I have been a so called job hopper prior to this job. So after putting in a solid year and a half at this company, I kind of feel like I should stick around for a few more months at least. But this woman is killing me emotionally and helping me in developing anxiety issues.
I have spent a few hours at Barnes and Noble the other day looking up advice on how to deal with toxic bosses and I'm still trying to draw the appropriate course of action for myself. There's no HR dept., not that I have much faith in those, there no other boss to complaint to, just the owner of the company and as I already mentioned, he just may decide to be on her side.
I'm also afraid to say/do something I may regret later, like opening a can of worms if I was to decide to confront my boss directly. I don't have much experience dealing with this, please help me approach this situation in the most sensible way.
What would you do in my situation?