Negative self talk is the best way to remain negative about yourself.
If it makes you feel any better, I DO have an advanced degree...a J.D. (Law degree) and I have traveled internationally recently (India to visit family) and I feel like a loser as well. Why? Because in the grass is greener mindset, I see that other people including you, have things that
great post! you really put things in perspective. you are right in that the grass always seems greener on the other side. why do you think that we, as humans, always want what others have?
thanks! I think we always (and I'm very guilty of this) compare our lives with others. Thus, even if we're happy with the things we do have, we see what others have that we don't and focus too much on what we lack.
I'm going to try to make an effort to focus on what I do have and maybe eventually, won't miss what I don't have.
I can relate to your post. I often times don't feel happy. I've also felt like I've never been happy and am a loser. I feel like I can never finish anything or get anything right. I am trying to work on my self esteem and positive self talk. I think those combined will help me and you as well.
Just as a matter of perspective, I do have a new, freshly smelling, perfect little newborn at home and I wish I had a law degree as well. I get the grass is always greener attitude because I lived it for so long (I'm in my early 30s)... so here we are, in a beautiful new home with 2 Mercedez in the driveway and we're actively participate in a rat race because I thought that's what I wanted. I would like to blame the pace of life and our own American society for this constant feeling of wanting more. I'm not just referring to keeping up with the Joneses but the overall feeling in this country of not being good enough unless.... but the list never ends. We're suppose to have law degrees and be married with 2 kids by 30, own a home, travel, have many friends, etc. Do you know anyone who has it all in that order? I do, lol but honestly, I think I don't know them very well so as my friend says "you don't know what goes on behind the closed doors". What appears to look a certain way on paper, isn't always the way it seems. Does that make sense to you? My point is, look around and you'll see people with great careers and shi**y marriages, great marriages and no jobs, great hair and rotten jobs...By the way, if you're Indian, I thought your culture had a more philosophical approach to life? Like it's all just the greedy American way...
How old are you, anyway? Unless you're in mid to late 30s, I'd say, you have enough time to meet someone to have a baby with, ha ha. Otherwise, you just need to become a little more proactive about finding a man. But again, look at me, I have my baby and a decent husband and Im perusing self esteem boards in my spare time.
LOL...loved your post just_aubrey!
Appreciate who you are...not who your friends or acquaintences have or have become.