self help ideas?

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Registered: 08-03-2005
self help ideas?
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Sun, 12-20-2009 - 10:10pm

I was wondering what type of self help steps you take to make yourself feel better. I'd like to work on changing my negative thoughts. I was thinking of maybe start writing down how I feel and all my negative thoughts.

My fiance has suggested doing something creative. I don't think I'm a creative or a artsy type of person but he says I am. He thinks I should do something like pottery or make something and maybe it will help distract my negative thoughts. He says the only reason I don't allow myself to do creative things is because if it doesn't come out perfect I'll beat myself up and say I'm a failure. It's sad but true so I'm trying to change that.

I'm hoping maybe someone has good ideas.

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Registered: 09-10-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 8:15am

maybe you could start by asking yourself why you have to do things perfectly. if you tried your best, does that make you a failure? nobody gets it the first time and that's exactly why you shouldn't give up. i agree with your fiance that something like pottery is a good distraction (and it's really fun!) but you have to figure out what you're distracting yourself from and deal with that first.


how are you doing on your therapist search?

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Registered: 09-10-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 9:14am
i just posted some tips in the "news & wellness" folder, below.
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Registered: 05-06-2007
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 9:16am

Here is what I did.

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Registered: 08-03-2005
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 11:17am

Thank you both for the links. That had very good ideas. I actually printed them out so I can refer back to them a lot.


As for therapy, I'm actually going to try to work on things myself. I'll admit I'm a little nervous about therapy. I'm not sure I can open up to someone I don't know. I'd like to try to see if I can help a little. If not then I'd like to find a therapist.