self-talk in plural ?

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self-talk in plural ?
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 12:20pm

Once I realized I do not suffer from depression, but rather a low self-esteem I started to see myself differently.

This is when I noticed my self-talk tends to be in first person plural. I don't know if I do this as a way to detach myself from responsibility or what?

Some examples:

Instead of saying, "I know what I can do."
I say, "I know what we can do."


Instead of saying, "I should clean the bathrooms today."
I say, "We should clean the bathrooms today."


I've tried to look this up online and do not see anything about it, except in reference to a book about dissociative identity. Which just freaks me out. In high school I wondered if I could have this after learning about it b/c I had completely blocked out my 2nd grade year & realized I had in my 3rd grade year. Anything & everything I've done has not been able to trigger memories from that time. I've had other times which are blurry, but I don't think I've ever had any other total block out (except my first kiss w/the man who is now my H).

Does anybody else do this? Should I be concerned?

"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Registered: 09-10-2009
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 8:59am
hey, firstglimpse, welcome to the board. i think you are probably just detaching yourself from responsibility, like you said, or it's something you picked up from someone else (a parent, maybe?). it doesn't sound like a big deal
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Registered: 02-18-2010
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 2:57am

I've just finished reading a great book (for the second time), and I'd like to share it with everyone.

"Jeffrey Gitomer's Little Gold Book of YES! Attitude"

Really practical and good stuff.

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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 8:23pm

I know what you're talking about.