*NEWBIE* Uber-Low Self Esteem
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|Wed, 05-05-2010 - 10:36pm|
First time posting on this board :)
Long story short - I'm almost 30. I have a great job, a masters degree, own my condo, car, and have an incredible wardrobe. I'm in good shape, healthy and have good friends. BUT I feel empty.
My boyfriend of 4 years, who I thought I would marry, dumped me after New Years this year and I've been miserable since then. I figured out I am battling depression caused by what my therapist has called 'low self esteem' caused by childhood neglect from both my parents, especially my Dad. I can rhyme off lists why I think I should feel good about myself, I can have others tell me why I am great but deep down, I don't believe or internalize any of it.
My therapist recommended writing down all of my positives 3 x a day...but it is exhausting and I am getting annoyed and writing stuff like "held the door for someone".
Any tips on where to start building self esteem?
I've always assumed self esteem is tied to perfection (I'm a perfectionist) and perfection is not attainable. How do you become OK with who you are?