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|Fri, 05-14-2010 - 5:29pm|
I started seeing a guy I was friends with in high school. I hadn't seen him in 20 years, but we found each other on Facebook. He started chatting with me online and he asked for my phone number. Last Saturday, he asked me to come over to his place so we could catch up. We talked for a few hours and it was really nice. He told me he had a crush on me in high school and said he wished he would've asked me out but was too shy. He started kissing me and we were making out and we ended up in bed. I stayed with him all night. Things seemed pretty good. I left in the morning and he told me to call him later. So I did that night and we talked for quite a while. We both had bad divorces so we were talking a lot about that. Before we hung up, he told me to call him during the week.
I called him Wednesday night. He said "I wondered when you were gonna call." I said "well, you could've called me too." But anyway, we talked a while and he told me to come over after work on Thursday. I thought things were going well at that point. When I got to his house, he didn't hug or kiss me. He said let's order something to eat. So we got a pizza and brought it back to his house. We talked more about our divorce experiences and I had already told him that my ex was abusive to me and because of him I had a low self esteem. He said the same of himself. So after a while I gave him a hug and kiss. Then he said something that absolutely broke my heart. He told me that he won't date heavy women. I am overweight - but working on losing and have already lost 20 lbs. I've been told that I am pretty. In high school I was really thin, but have gained some weight over the years. Anyway, he said his brother always dates heavy women and that their family always makes fun of him for that and that he (the guy I was seeing) can't handle that. He said I know it shouldn't matter and that it should be a woman's character but he just can't date someone like that. I was absolutely stunned and didn't know what to say. He didn't think I was too heavy to have sex with, though! So I put my coat on, told him that I wasn't going to waste his time anymore, and I left.
Sorry this was so long, but I'm having a hard time dealing with all this. I was really starting to feel good about myself. I lost a dress size, bought some new clothes - even started wearing skirts and high heels again! I was actually happy. But now my self-esteem has hit an all time low again after what he said to me and I just want to dig a hole and hide myself.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!