Hi, I could use some direction.
welcome to the board. i think it's really cool that you want to make yourself happy first. to build confidence you have to work on what interests you and/or what you enjoy.
OMG ... it makes too much sense.
What helped me is to start yoga/meditation. Meditation is hard, so I do more guided type meditation and/or listen to a podcast from zencast to come to understand meditation better. Learning to focus on my body & spirit helps me turn my attention to myself. Learning to eat a better diet helps too.
I think basically, learning to take care of self in the best possible ways - treat self with respect, then learning who you are starts to fall in place.
This is not a quick results type of deal. It is a slow, life-long, process.
Treat yourself to something healthy today :)
thank you both for your suggestions, I appreciate them.
it's not odd; you probably just never thought about it before.
in the past, do you remember any activities/events that sparked your interest (but maybe you didn't have time to pursue)? or maybe a class that you wanted to take? our local community college has all kinds of non-credit classes for adults; maybe yours does, too. do you like to read, or go to movies? are you interested in sports or nature?
just suggestions :)
Sometimes it's the "hunt" that some men (& women) crave.
I sometimes think we choose to focus on the "what if's", because it helps us work through the alternative.