new to board - need advice

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Registered: 05-17-2008
new to board - need advice
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Sun, 06-06-2010 - 9:45pm

Hi, I could use some direction.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 9:12am

welcome to the board. i think it's really cool that you want to make yourself happy first. to build confidence you have to work on what interests you and/or what you enjoy.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 2:29pm

OMG ... it makes too much sense.

What helped me is to start yoga/meditation. Meditation is hard, so I do more guided type meditation and/or listen to a podcast from zencast to come to understand meditation better. Learning to focus on my body & spirit helps me turn my attention to myself. Learning to eat a better diet helps too.

I think basically, learning to take care of self in the best possible ways - treat self with respect, then learning who you are starts to fall in place.

This is not a quick results type of deal. It is a slow, life-long, process.

Treat yourself to something healthy today :)




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng



"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Registered: 05-17-2008
Tue, 06-08-2010 - 10:36pm

thank you both for your suggestions, I appreciate them.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 8:53am

it's not odd; you probably just never thought about it before.


in the past, do you remember any activities/events that sparked your interest (but maybe you didn't have time to pursue)? or maybe a class that you wanted to take? our local community college has all kinds of non-credit classes for adults; maybe yours does, too. do you like to read, or go to movies? are you interested in sports or nature?


just suggestions :)

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Registered: 05-06-2007
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 7:38pm

Sometimes it's the "hunt" that some men (& women) crave.

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Registered: 05-17-2008
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 7:58pm

Hi


thanks N2ishn

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Registered: 05-06-2007
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 8:20pm

I sometimes think we choose to focus on the "what if's", because it helps us work through the alternative.