Don't Understand Some People's Behavior

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Registered: 11-26-2002
Don't Understand Some People's Behavior
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Sat, 07-03-2010 - 6:37pm

I had abusive parents, an abusive family, and escaped a 14 year abusive marriage last year.

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Registered: 09-10-2009
Tue, 07-06-2010 - 8:04am
welcome to the board, and sorry to hear about your mom. your brother could be acting the way he is because he is grieving, or because he is afraid that you will abandon him if you guys become close, so it's easier to just shut you out than to open up to you at the risk of being abandoned later. alternatively, he could have a
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Registered: 11-26-2002
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 11:12pm

Hi.

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Registered: 09-10-2009
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 9:10am
you're welcome to vent here anytime. i'm sure their problem isn't about you at all - they don't even know you! it probably is about money, and for that reason you might want to think about hiring a lawyer. even if you don't care about the money, having a lawyer there tells them that you mean business. that way, they can be cold toward the lawyer and you don't have to get emotionally involved at all. it's a shame that they wouldn't want to get to know their sister but, hey, they're adults and they make their choices and that's just the way it is. all you can do is look out for yourself and try not to take other people's behavior personally (even though i know it's hard).
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Registered: 11-26-2002
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 11:53am

Thank you so much for giving me your viewpoint.