Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007

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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am

Hi Tziporah,


I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.


I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.


Welcome again!


(PS: I love the sound of your name!)


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Mon, 06-13-2011 - 3:18am
Hi Karen, You're right. It's really crazy--you need rain and there's ton in the overflowing river. Just another proof that we have limitted control over the world. It would be nice if somehow all the water could be sent to where it's really needed. I'm sure the world's screwed up eccologically. As far as the boards go, well, your explanation was informative, but I probably didn't explain my question well enough, because I was actually asking about something else. The question was: in a long thread, for example, which has, say, twenty-five replies, how do you get back to the first reply? and then, after you've read the first two or three replies on the first page, how do you get to the fourth reply on the second page, the eighth reply on the third page, etc., thus being able to read the responses in the proper sequential order? That's what I was asking. Oh, for the good old days when the board was simple! laugh. Tziporah
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Wed, 06-15-2011 - 7:15am

Hi Tziporah,

that is an easier question.

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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 3:27am
Hi Karen, I almost didn't do the exercises today. Hit rock bottom--that depressed. I caught myself in time and did them anyway. Felt better--at least momentarily. Feeling very stuck financially--squeezed! Feeling very ashamed I've even gotten to this point. Feeling like a failure. Racking my brains out trying to figure out how to turn this thing around. Can't even afford therapy anymore--or, if I have to have it, will have to go on a very reduced schedule--which may not be the worst thing. Although it does seem to maintain me. Will have to write my pchych.doc about that and discuss it with my t. At least the elevator is moving along nicely. Thanks for all the explanations about how to use the msb. Karen, How are things going jobwise and otherwise for you? Tziporah
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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 4:45am

Hi Tziporah,

Job hunting sucks really.

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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 7:09am
Hi Karen, Tell me about it! The questions you're asking are the same ones I'm asking. Like: they only want someone with "work experienceA", but if you never get a job, how are you going to get "work experience"? You know what I'm talking about, I'm sure. The only people who give brilliant how-to-get-a-job advice are superstar life coaches who are making 6 figures, shrinks who have a full practice like my therapist, (he works for an agency), my psych.doc who charges a lot for her hourly fee. You know where I'm going with this one. Well, she said if I could at all help it, I should have therapy every week, but if not, every other week. I sent her an email about my financial problems today and how I'm stretching to the max and don't know what to do about therapy. My t. will probably either call or email later in the day--it's still early morning in Canada, where he's at. I sent an application for an online tutoring job. But when I spoke to the secretary in the local office about it, she said she wasn't sure if they were hiring now or not. Not shutting the door exactly, but not too hopeful either. Why is your dh quitting his job, especially when you have no other income coming in? Not criticizing him, of course. I could see why he'd rather be home with you. Write back. Love you, Tzip
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Tue, 06-28-2011 - 10:06pm

The job he is on was supposed to be temporary and it should have ended three weeks ago.

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Wed, 06-29-2011 - 3:19am
Hi Karen, Well, if I were in your husband's shoes I'd probably do the same thing. The last few years my husband got to the point where he hated his job. He worked in a local city council office. But he didn't quit it until the office had a sizing-down and he was eliminated--this meant he had a lot of pension benefits. He had worked there for 33 years, so he got very good terms. He used to have tension headaches the last year, and I would tell him those headaches were related to work. He would scoff at this idea. But then, after he had been away from that environment for awhile, he turned to me one day and said: "You know? I don't have those headaches anymore.! I just said: "I told you so." So I can see his side of it. Most women think they can choose their jobs, while most men think they have to work in a job whether they like it or not because they are supposed to be the main breadwinners. So, your husband is being honest and courageous in coming home. Still, not having enough money is a real problem and I hope you and him will find something soon. As for me, the psych.doc said I should try to have therapy every week, or every other. My therapist called yesterday to discuss it, but I was in the middle of a long distance call and couldn't talk to him, so we'll discuss it in our session tomorrow. My husband still thinks I should keep up with the therapy. I waver between keeping up with it and stopping it. I know I'm the only one who can solve my problems. What can he tell me that he hasn't told me already? How is he supposed to help me stop feeling bored, depressed, inadequate, hopeless, depressed, etc.? Only I can do that. The humiliation is that I used to see friends of mine who were like this--sitting around and doing nothing, bored out of their wits end, and I never thought I would be in that situation, and here I am in it! I sent an ad to that online tutoring program, butt I didn't get any reply. Everybody keeps saying i should go to the welfare department for blind people. I know what they'll say--it's so humiliating. All they have are these supervised workshops where you make odds and ends for pennies. Under the minimum wage. I refuse to demean myself in that way. Didn't exercise yesterday, but forced myself to do it today. I'm going through this on-again, off-again thing. But I know I need to maintain the structure and not let it slip. Sometimes I think: what's the difference if I do it or not? My life is going nowhere. But then I remind myself I've let myself slip so many times, I can't allow myself to fall into this temptation trap. So that's the way it is. I need the therapy for the maintenance, to keep me from totally falling apart or sinking, but it's pretty much the same thing week after week. There are some subtle changes, but it's very slow going. Haven't been outside since Saturday. I know that's not good either, but... Sunday watched a TV movie: Love Can Build A Bridge, a TV movie about the country duo--Naomi and Wynonna Judd. The thing I kept focusing on was how they got so many "no" responses until somebody gave them a chance. Have you ever seen it? Tziporah
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Thu, 06-30-2011 - 7:09pm

Hi Tziporah,

I have not seen that movie.

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Mon, 07-18-2011 - 8:30pm

Hey Tziporah,

It's been awhile and I was wondering if you are okay.

Karen

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Fri, 08-05-2011 - 7:29pm

Just stopped by to check in with you.

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