Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
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Belated Welcome, Shavtay2007
| Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:32am |
Hi Tziporah,
I am so sorry that this is such a belated welcome to you. I've been absent from the board for nearly a month - so many things have been happening in my life that it was difficult to also come here. The good news is that life has somewhat calmed down (but I'm still crossing my fingers and my toes), which means that I'm back on iVillage.
I am so very happy to see you here, participating and sharing in our conversations! I hope that we'll get to know each other better in the coming weeks.
Welcome again!
(PS: I love the sound of your name!)

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You are right for asking the obvious question--why did I go back to her? because--I'm a sucker, I mean, I couldn't help it. Just fell for being compassionate. Can't watch a person struggling and just stand by doing nothing. Still, I am trying to restrain myself. I wait for her to make the phone calls, make only a few suggestions she is open to, keep telling her to get her husband more involved, not answering her messages always asap. These things seem to help.
Tell me where I can find your strategy thread--you don't have to reprint it, just tell me where I can find the link and I'll do it myself.
You are also right about not pressuring me to kill myself in file construction--reconstruction, as the case may be. I am taking it slowly.
I sent you an email awhile ago. If you didn't get it, let me know.
Have a good weekend. Tziporah
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
It was kind of silly of me to ask why you went back to her. Of course you would because you care too much. That doesn't make you a sucker. I am known to be the same way. When I was preparing for my interview I asked my friend what my biggest weakness was and she said that I want to help other people too much at the expense of myself sometimes. So I can understand. It's great to hear that you are letting her come to you and not pushing too hard. It sounds like you are finding a better balance.
Here is the coping strategies thread http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhselfinjury&msg=8419.4&ctx=0
I'm sorry I haven't been on much. I started Seroquel this week and have been sleeping a lot. Yesterday I got up at 4pm. I think I've found the right time to take my meds and go to bed though. 9pm meds 11pm bed. Yesterday I took my meds at 9:30 and woke up at 4:30 this morning and then 6:15 then 6:50 then 7:40. So I was awake when I needed to get up (6:30) but I wasn't able to get myself out of bed till 7:40 so I'm pretty close to where I need to be.
It looks like we are all March women here!
Happy birthday to us, then.
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I'm glad you found the right times for the meds. Sometimes that can make the whole difference between success and failure with meds. Tziporah
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
That was in a very early message--one of the first.
I'm still biting my nails a lot. I know I should wear gloves, but often do not. Most of my cuticle biting comes at night, when I should be sleeping and can't seem to sleep.
Last night I was thinking about the blogging. Why should I even do it? I started to think. I am not a blog reader--so why should I expect anyone to read my blog? I've never read anyone else's. Then the thought came: there are thousands of blogs out there. Why should anyone notice mine? I realize these are thoughts connected to low self-esteem, just the thing to make me feel discouraged, and then the nail-biting started as a reaction in response to that. That is what my t. says, that i bite my cuticles as a response to the negative self-image feelings.
I reminded myself of that. It helped. I finally fell asleep.
I thought of cutting back to one session per week--it's getting expensive and money is tight right now. But I realized I can't afford doing that--I need the twice-weekly sessions in order to counter the negative thoughts and anxieties I have.
Tziporah
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
Hmm... last year seems like a lifetime ago for me since it was such a looooooong year spent mostly at the hospital. Which is what the first three months of this year has been looking like. Anyhow, I shall remember now and hopefully I will not forget for next year.
Pisces rule! Hee hee hee...
Ok Tzip. The reason why you blog is because you have something to say or share. Readers will come on their own, gradually and I am sure that they will. You can blog here on iConnect or you can blog through other blog services (or whatever they are called). When I blogged I liked the discipline of having to write something once a week (my minimum). As people start to read and respond to what you've written, you might also start to read their blogs, too.
I say: just do it. If you find that it's not giving you anything in return, you can always stop. But at least you can tell yourself that for 3 to 6 months you gave it a go.
There's someone I know who could find inspiration in your writing. More about this later.
Let's start as soon as possible! I also need to gentle push myself to begin blogging again.
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I hope you had a good week end.
I would like to take you up on your offer of help with blogging. I'm stuck. I can't seem to get into my own blog--no, that isn't it. I can access it, but can't, or don't know where to type in the text part of the message. I find it very strange that for the msb feature ivillage has instructions: "how to use the boards", but that there isn't something similar with the blogs: "how to use the blogs". I think blogging is more complicated than msb. but then, until I figured it out, I also thought msb was complicated! I still haven't gotten any response to my plea for help which I posted on the ivillage tour guide board.
So, where do we go from here? I mean, in a practical way, so I can get this blogging thing up and running?
I am still fighting my negative thoughts with this whole coaching thing. If I could just get past the technical stuff and start having fun doing the real thing. It just seems I always end up being bogged down in more tech and less coaching.
I put ads on for trial coaches. Still haven't gotten any takers. The one trial session I had was fun, but she then decided to go elsewhere.
I need a lift, something positive to lift me out of this depression;/anxiety/discouragement.
Tziporah
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
I'm an aries.
You should blog if you want to. Then if you want to share it with people then share the link. People also do read blogs of people they don't know. I know I read several when I was looking for stories of people with BP and PTSD. If you want to do it then do it. If you don't want to do it because others won't read it or you don't want others to read it then journal for yourself.
web: www.istillhavemylife.com
blog: tziporahwishky.livejournal.com
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